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The first kiss is very important. If there isn’t passion then you have a problem.

Many women consider the first kiss to be very important. Some women place such a huge importance on the first kiss that it is a deal breaker for her. If the kiss is bad then all attraction will be lost.

I’m going to give you a few tips to help you get this right.

Just Going For It

There are worse things you can do then kiss her.

Some men hesitate, think about, look at her lips, and then finally decide not to even do it. This may go on for an entire date.

She knows that you want to do it. You will look weak if you don’t kiss her. Just lean in slow so that she can see it coming. This way she can back away if she isn’t ready.

Major Attraction First

Ideally you want some attraction, tension, flirting, and a good connection first. She will be more receptive to your kiss and will return a more passionate kiss.

- Is she flirting with you?
- Is she leaning in towards you with her body language?
- Is she tilting her head?
- Is she frequently touching you?
- Is she trying to come up with excuses to be alone with you?
- Is she trying to get closer to you and take away space?

These are just a few signs.

Getting The Kiss Right

There are very few things in movies and on TV that work well in the real world. This here is one of the exceptions to that rule. This is a variation of something you might see in a movie.

- Find a quite spot. (Somewhere where there are less people. This isn’t always the case. You can kiss on the dance floor at a club.)
- Look deeply in her eyes.
- Get closer to her and pull her hair back from her face a little. Put one hand above her hip or on it.
- Whisper in her ear. “I’ve been wanting to do this all night. I want to kiss you.”
- Tilt your head to the side a little bit and slowly lean in.
- Kiss softly and let things build with passion if she is really into it.

If things go really well she will almost go limp into your arms. Things can get very heated from here.

You don’t need to emphasis any tongue for the first kiss. It can be very soft, gentle, and even short to be enjoyable.

Your probably wondering about the kissing technique? All you have to do is kiss her the way she kisses you. If she gives lots of tongue, then you give lots back. The idea is to give her the type of first kiss that she wants.

Now of days we always hear about men becoming pickup artists or players. Is that something you want to become?

I still think the average guy wants one amazing girlfriend.

In this article today, were going to look at how you can attract high quality women to become your girlfriend. There are some major differences between having a girlfriend and just attracting random women. So if you want a girlfriend, then read this article carefully.

Decide What Kind Of Woman You Want

Not just any woman will do.

- Her being really hot isn’t good enough.
- Her being the first woman to kiss you isn’t good enough.
- Her being the first woman to go out with you isn’t good enough.

You have to have some idea of what you want and what you don’t want. You may have to meet allot of women before you can figure out what it is that you do like.

Develop Your Personality And Character

The more ordinary you are the less you stand out. I don’t just mean your looks. Want I’m talking about here is who you are as a person.

A woman can watch TV with any guy, but what can she do with you? What do you have to offer that other guys don’t?

Develop some hobbies and interests that are beyond the normal.

Get The Little Things Right

What are the little things?

How do you represent yourself? How do you dress? How well groomed are you? Is your home clean and in order? Are you self-reliant and independent? Are you happy with your job?

Don’t expect a woman to come into your life to look after you and make you more happy. She wants to be part of something where the two of you make each other happy. There has to be something in it for her.

Don’t Change Your Behavior

Allot of relationship go bad because one or both parties change.

The woman who stopped looking after herself… The man who no longer wants any excitement, but just wants to watch TV…

You have to keep doing the same things that you did to get her so that you can keep her.

We can talk about dating and confidence all day long, but at some point your going to want to get laid. There is nothing wrong with it. Sex is a great part of life and its the main reason we are all here on this place called earth.

Getting laid mainly boils down to 3 things.

1.How you communicate to her
2.Your touch
3.Getting her to think about sex

Keep reading for the full details.

Tip #1: How You Communicate To Her

Lovers and friends communicate differently. All you have to do is go to any place where there is plenty of single people. Men and women will be giving out lots of intimate body language towards one another. You can do things that make her respond with those signals.

- Your body language matters.
- How you talk to her matters.

You want to talk mainly about her, tease her a little bit, give out the odd compliment, role play, challenge her, and talk with a sexy voice.

- Do not treat her like a friend.
- Don’t listen to all her problems.
- Be charming, but don’t be a wimp.

Tip #2: Your Touch

If you want to be her lover and not her friend, then you should have your hands all over one another. This doesn’t just happen instantly. You start with small touching and work your way up towards more intimate touching, until you get to the point where your having sex.

- Touch her hands
- Touch her arms
- Cuddle
- Kiss

On and on it goes. Make sure that you always start small with your touches. If you don’t you will look like a pervert.

Tip #3: Get Her To Talk And Think About Sex

This can be done with your language or ask her the right types of questions.

“Describe to me what a romantic night with your sweetheart would be like?”

Look her deeply in the eyes as she describes it to you. Watch her facial expressions, listen to her tone of voice, and watch her body language. You will probably notice a big difference in her.

Usually when you are on a date you have a moment of silence. This is where neither one of you know what to say. You could let her say something or you could pickup the slack by filling the silence yourself. Regardless, here are 10 conversation starters that can help keep the conversation going.

1.What is your worst bad habit. (This can bring up conversation about what her bad habits are, what is your worst bad habit, and what bad habits you have both overcome. This can also help you decide if you could put up with her bad habits.)

2.What is one of your most embarrassing moments that you laugh at now?(This can help bring out some stories, smiling, and laughter.)

3.Do you remember and ever think about your first boyfriend? What was he like?(This brings out feelings of love and relationships. It can also tell you what type of guys she likes to date.)

4.Do you remember your first kiss?(This can get her thinking about kissing. It also helps bring out some of those old feelings. She may even tell you how she likes to be kissed or how she doesn’t like to be kissed.)

5.What is your favorite thing to do when you need to relax?(This can help her feel more relaxed around you. Get her to describe how it makes her feel.)

6.Are you the romantic type? What is your idea of romance?(Gets her in a romantic mood and gets her to tell you how to seduce her.)

7.What is the most interesting thing about you that few know about?(This is to dig deep and find out what makes her interesting and unique.)

8.If you had all the money in the world what would you do with it?(A test to see how greedy she is, how spoiled she is, and how good of a person she is.)

9.What is your passion?(Digging deep again. Looking to find out what makes her who she is.)

10. If you could be any animal what would you be?(Just a good fun questions that can also be very interesting.)

Would you like to get more confidence with women?

If you would then read this post right to the very end. Were going to look at some tips that will help you be and feel more confident.

Probably the biggest secret of attracting beautiful women is through confidence. This is the opposite of what most men think. Allot of guys want cool tricks and magic lines to get a woman to fall for him. Some of that stuff does work, but the tricks can’t go on forever. Eventually, you will want to get beyond all of that stuff.

Confidence Tip #1: Your Not Being Yourself

You know how everyone tells you to be yourself? Have you ever noticed how useless that advice really is?

You never really are being yourself!

- Being scared isn’t being yourself.
- Being nervous isn’t being yourself.
- Trying to impress women isn’t being yourself.

These are all behaviors of someone who is being anything but themselves. Do not take that advice too seriously. I used to hear that advice all the time. If anything it will only frustrate you even more.

Confidence Tip #2: Change The Reason Why You Are Approaching Her

This is huge.

Most guys approach a woman with the intent of hitting on her, flirting with her, getting her number, picking her up, and so forth. That can work if you are a player. But you aren’t a player. For the average guy, approaching a woman, for those reasons will only create anxiety.

You have to change the reason why you are approaching.

So what can that reason be?

- To get her opinion.
- To be friendly.
- To get the time.
- To ask for directions.
- To see what she is like.
- Something that is neutral.

You, then escalate and move things forward as you get her talking to you.

Confidence Tip #3: Don’t Place Too Much Importance On The Outcome Or Her

This one is another biggie.

When you see a beautiful woman you practically hypnotize yourself.

“I got to get this one!”

“I got to get her number for sure!”

“I can’t let this one get away!”

“I got to have sex with this woman!”

All of that just builds more anxiety and pressure. You either won’t approach, or if you do, you will make a fool of yourself.

There are an abundance of women on planted earth. They are everywhere and there will always be more of them. Approach her, talk to her, flirt with her, but don’t put pressure on yourself.

“You don’t have to have that woman.”

“You don’t have to get her number.”

“You don’t have to have sex with her.”

These are just possibilities if things happen to go well.

You can easily add steps or take some away. This is just a guideline for you to follow to seduce woman efficiently.

Step #1: Start A Conversation

Fairly straightforward. Ask her for her opinion or start conversation just for the sake of being social.

“HI ladies! I like meeting interesting people. Do you girls mind if I sit with you for a few minutes?”

“I’m looking for a good movie to watch. Got any good recommendations?”

Step #2: Lead The Conversation To About Her

Every bodies favorite conversation is themselves. Once you get her talking about a neutral topic it will get easier for her to open up about herself. She will also start to see that your interest in her is real. This is when you can start talking about normal stuff.

Step #3: Escalate

You have to move things forward to stay out of the friends zone.

“I noticed that you have a really sexy voice. I like that about you.”

Say something like that while you touch her on the hand, elbow, arm, or shoulder.

Step #4: Ask For The Instant Date

You have to get her to commit and get her to do something with you.

“There is a coffee shop right across from her. How about go grab a cup?”

Step #5: Get Her Contact Information

You won’t ever see her again if you don’t at least get her contact information.

“I’ve really enjoyed talking to you. Give me your e-mail so we can continue are conversation in the future.”

Conclusion

Again, you can add, skip, or move different steps to suit your own style. The one listed here is meant to be very simple for the average guy.

When you see an attractive woman its only natural for you to want to impress her and seek out her approval. It will be your first instinct to think like this and react accordingly. However, there is a problem with this. The more you try to impress her, and the more you want her approval, the more you end up looking weak and not confident with yourself.

You need to be able to maintain your authority when you are with a woman. Were going to look at how you can impress a woman and maintain that authority.

Your Appearance

The first thing she sees is how you dress, how you walk, your body language, and your overall sense of style. You really don’t have to look dominant or alpha as most people like to put it now of days.

You just have to look comfortable, relaxed, like your enjoying yourself, and almost as if the world moves at a different pace for you. Most people look stressed, busy, and as if they are in a hurry. Your relaxed presence will have a soothing effect on her.

Your Speech

The next thing that a woman is going to notice about you is your words. It isn’t so much what you say, but how you say it.

If you sound nervous, stutter, and mumble then you wont be congruent with your great appearance. A matter of fact, you will end up looking more like a liar. (Your not who you appear to be.)

Focus Your Attention

This is very important. Everything can fall apart right here if you don’t get this right.

Women are always on the lookout for liar’s. You have to be what you appear to be and be what she thinks you are. In other words, you have to be believable.

If you tell her a story, but can’t look her in the eyes, she won’t know if your telling the truth.

The same goes for asking her questions.

Don’t care about her answer? She won’t think your interest in her is real.

Don’t listen to what she says? She won’t think your interest in her is real.

Same thing with compliments too. Don’t tell her she is beautiful while you are staring at another woman.

Be Ready For Her Tests

She is probably going to test you to see if you can maintain your authority. She may ask you a challenging question to see if your lying or get on your nerves with her behavior. These sorts of tests need to handles correctly.

In many cases you can ignore her test, have her answer her own question first, or fight back by asking her a different question that will challenge her.

Don’t Suck Up To Her

Be nice, but not to nice too fast. Drink buying, gift buying, paying her way, and favors should be kept to a minimum early on. She may even try to get you to do those things early on as a test.

Today were going to talk about one the biggest problems most men have when it comes to meeting women. What is that big problem? Fear of approaching women. This is often known as approach anxiety.

I’ve written some about this before, but I’m going to give you another different spin on this.

I’m going to give you 3 step system that will help you overcome this fear of meeting women.

Step #1 Committing To Living In Your Own Reality

Why is this important? Because you are afraid of what she will think of you.

In your reality you are amazing. What you are afraid of is getting sucked into someone else’s reality. In their reality you are a dork, they hate the way you dress, the color of your hair, and even the way you walk.

Women can be very critical. If you wear a hat she might be disappointed to find out when you take it off, that you have no hair. She might be critical of many of the things you do, like, and have.

You have to commit to being you and loving you. You have to maintain the way you see yourself at all times.

Women will test you to see if you will change your opinions and views of yourself.

Her: I hate your T-shirt?
You: So? What’s your point?

Be strong. You wear what you wear because you like it. She doesn’t have to wear it, so her opinion doesn’t matter.

Step #2 Have Something Interesting To Say

Why is this important? Because your afraid you don’t have anything interesting to say, won’t know what to say, and will run out of things to say.

This doesn’t have to be that hard. If you ask open-ended questions you will be forcing her to say more then just “Yes” Or “No”. The more you focus on her the better. Add in your own opinions and comments so things don’t sound like an interview.

At the grocery store? Talk about food and cooking. If she ends up being Italian then you can talk about their culture, food and country. Are you getting the point?

Eventually you can even ask her what she does for a living, hobbies, and so forth. She will see and believe that you are interested in her by then.

Step #3 Know How To Respond To Rejection Responsibly

Why is this important? Because most men handle it very poorly and most men are hurt by it. They are so afraid of being rejected that they don’t bother to approach women.

Handle it with maturity. Other women could be watching and she may like you enough to introduce you to her friend that is close by. Most men don’t see things like that.

You: I enjoy talking to you. I would like to see you again.
Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: He’s a lucky guy. Make sure you tell him that for me will yeah?
Her: (Smiling) I will do that.

Don’t complain, don’t get rude, and don’t take it personally. Point your energy and focus to the next woman that is available.

Depending on how you look at it bars, clubs, pubs, and lounges are great places to meet women. The main reason is because you increase your odds of meeting single women there. Of course there are allot of disadvantages too. We won’t look at those here today.

I’m just going to give you a few random tips to help you out in meeting women in these areas.

Tip 1: Settle Into The Environment

The most desperate guys at the bar are ones approaching all sorts of hot women and offering to buy them drinks.

Relax and enjoy yourself. Buy a drink and do some people watching. Get yourself into a more social mood. Talk to other guys, people who seem interesting, and women you might not even be attracted too.

Tip 2: Look For Available Women

All women go to clubs to get attention. It doesn’t matter what they tell you. They don’t spend all that time in front of a mirror for nothing. Despite what they may tell you, they don’t do it to impress other women either. If they were dressing up to impress other women they would be going to a lesbian bar.

Because women are looking for attention you might not get anywhere with a large percentage of them. This is why you got to look around the bar and be aware of witch women are just looking for attention. Usually some eye contact and smile will help you filter through them.

Tip 3: Girls Night Out?

Remember what I said about finding women who are there to actually meet someone instead rather then just attentions? This is one reason why.

Don’t bother approaching women who are having a girls night out. The odds of you getting anywhere is stacked against you on this.

Tip 4: Tell Them Witch Girl You Like

At bars most women are going to be in groups. There is nothing wrong with talking to the whole group, but your not going to want to do that forever. Simply tell them witch one of them you like.

“I like your friend over here. I think she is cute.”

This will allow them to understand why your paying so much attention to her and to see that you like one another.

Tip 5: The Flirting Woman & The Easy Going One

There are 3 good ways to approach a women in a group, but two of them are ideal. I’m going to give you the two ideal ones.

1.The flirting woman: This is the woman you have been flirting with from a distance. She already likes you and that makes her easier to approach then one who may not.

2.The easy going woman: In most groups of women there is one that is easier to get to know then the others. She is more friendly and social. If you can identify that woman then you should approach her first.

The next time you head out to the club give some of those things a try.

Why is it that all the jerks seem to be able to attract beautiful women without any effort at all?

How can an average guy like you attract beautiful women like those jerks do without any effort?

Today were going to look at how you can do just that without being a jerk.

Jerks Are Proud To Be Jerks

Jerks, who always seem to get the hot woman are proud to be jerks. They are obnoxious and annoying. That gets a womans attention.

Women don’t really like them because they are jerks. Women like jerks because jerks like themselves and can’t be controlled. This is how they attract women effortlessly.

For example, if a woman wants to dance he will say no. The woman will then try hard to get him to dance. Just as she starts to get really angry and mad at him, he will grab her and start to dance with her.

In other words, he does things on his own terms.

Does This Mean You Have To Be A Jerk?

No you don’t.

A matter of fact, you probably already attract women effortlessly. Usually these are the women you aren’t attracted to back or are women that you don’t even know are attracted to you.

Here is an example from my own life.

I was once talking to a woman just for the sake of being social. This woman was significantly older then me. All of a sudden…

Her: Do you have any clue what your doing to me?
Me: Umm… No! What am I doing to you?
Her: Oh you have to know!
Me: I have no idea what your talking about.
Her: Your so much younger then I am.
Me: Right.
Her: Oh the things that I could do to you and teach you.

The next thing I know she is pulling on me and grabbing my hand to get me to dance with her.

I did nothing to try and attract this woman. The fact that I did nothing is what made her attracted to me.

There is a hidden lesson here.

When you give a woman special attention, when she hasn’t deserved it yet, you are pursing her. When you pursue a woman you often are in a different frame of mind. Your body language is different and you send out desperate vibes.

“You have to treat women you are attracted to just like you would if she was a woman you weren’t attracted to.”

You don’t stay in that mode forever. It’s just something you do in the early stages. This works because you are treating her like a normal person. Extremely beautiful women are often treated special because of their looks. You will only start to treat her differently once you find out that she has attractive qualities about her personality.

What you are essentially doing is showing her that her personality is what really turns you on.

I hope your starting to see how powerful this is.