What is that problem?

They become so desperate that they would take any woman that would have them. This woman could be a killer, gold digger or who knows what.

Here are a few red flags to look out for.

Red Flag #1: It Was Her EX Husbands Fault

It’s true that it might have been his fault. But it still takes two to make a marriage. The odds are she was failing somewhere.

What you will find is that this is just the beginning. Everything is always someone else’s fault. Usually it was her Ex’s fault.

- It’s his fault she doesn’t have a job.
- It’s his fault she lives with her mom.
- It’s his fault that she has no money.
- 10 years from now it will all still be his fault.

When you start dating her she is really looking towards you to blame her next failures on. Look out for this woman.

Red Flag #2: Revenge On Lovers

It’s natural for people to get angry after a breakup. It’s a painful and emotional experience. But some people get carried away with it. This particularly holds true for women.

Many women will get angry. They will try to take his money, his home, damage his career, his ego, and anything that she thinks is valuable to him.

Now how and the heck will you ever get over a breakup like that? In most cases you still won’t feel any better. A matter of fact you won’t feel better until you do move on. You sure haven’t moved on when you are seeking out revenge.

Watch out for what a woman has done in her past to Ex lovers. If she has done something to them then she will do something to you.

Red Flag #3: Poor Independence

Some men still like the idea of women depending on them.

News Flash!
If a woman depends on you your in trouble.

She will live off you and rack up big bills. It will only be a matter of time before she cheats on you.

In today’s society independence is necessary as much for women as it is for men.

Red Flag #4: She Doesn’t Want To Introduce You To Friends And Family

If a woman likes you she will want you to meet the people who are close to you. If she doesn’t want to introduce you to those that are close to her, then you have to wonder what your role in her life really is.

What is she using you for?

What does she want from you?

Think this through carefully.

Red Flag #5: She Smothers The People She Likes

I have actually heard women say that they like giving special attention to those they like. This isn’t always as nice as it sounds.

- She starts making plans for the two of you all the time.
- She stays at your place ever weekend.
- She leaves stuff at your place.
- She calls you all the time.
- She drives you completely insane.

Watch how a woman communicates to those she likes. If you catch her early you might be able to avoid that stalker.

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Today were going to look at how you can do it in the right way.

#1 Protection Of Her Feelings And Emotions

This is the most important one of them all.

Just because a woman acts tough doesn’t mean she is tough. Women are emotional by nature. Most women will get really emotional towards that special man in her life. She looks to him to help control those emotions. But if you can’t control them then she can ruin your relationship.

For example, I know a guy who’s wife would scream at him all the time for no reason at all. The truth is that she is screaming at him for a reason. She needs something from him…she needs him to help control her emotions. She is angry and she feels she can let it out on him.

Now, of course no one likes being screamed at all the time. He had to do something or else their marriage would come to an end.

What did he do?

- He came home from work
- She screamed at him
- e pinned her against the wall
- He calmly told her the way things were going to be from now on.
- He kissed her passionately, told her that he loved her, and told her you can talk to me but not scream at me.

It worked.

The lesson? You always have to be aware of a womans emotions and feelings when you communicate to her. Women need to be protected from their own emotions.

#2 Support

All her life people have told her she can’t do it. All she ever wanted was someone to believe in her. Her friends didn’t and her family didn’t.

Along comes a man in her life. This man believes she can do it and will be there for her every step of the way. This is the kind of support she has always wanted!

The lesson?

You can protect her from all the people who didn’t believe in her.

#3 Problems

You have probably heard that you shouldn’t listen to a womans problems. What a load of crap that is.

Don’t listen to a womans problems when you first start dating. But…as things progress you only look like a jerk if you don’t offer her support in this area.

- You don’t have to fix her problems.
- You don’t have to tell her how to fix her problems.

You can listen to her problems and support her when dealing with them.

“This is obviously bothering you. I want you to take care of this first thing in the mourning. Call me afterwards to let me know how things went.”

The lesson?

We all need someone to be there for us when things go wrong in our life.

Conclusion

I hope you use these 3 things in your own dating life and relationships. You will find that these can even work with any relationship. They are very simple, but also very useful. Take notice that these are not the simple nice guy type things. Your not buying her flowers or taking her out to an expensive restaurant hoping that it will make her feel better. These are things that help create positive feelings in her.

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Here is what they were talking about.

If a woman is interested, would she say maybe to your offer to go out sometime?

Here is the truth.

What woman would say maybe to a guy she is really interested in?

Hardly any woman would. Sure, some of them might play hard to get, but if she is really interested she can hardly wait to go with you. She knows that if she says no the whole opportunity could be lost.

That rule is not written in stone. Women can change their mind just like the wind changes the direction that it blows.

A woman may say maybe if there is other possible plans for her. Maybe she has plans to go shopping with her girlfriends or something else that is a possibility. What happens if those plans get canceled? That’s when you may become her next best option.

Here is what you do.

If a woman says maybe, give her your number.

“If you change your mind here is my number.”

Don’t tell her you will be waiting around for her call and don’t even bother waiting around for her to call you. Your putting your number out there to see if anything bites. Sometimes something bites, but often nothing will.

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I would call her allot, talk to her way to much over the phone and through instant messaging, and I always wanted to see her. I used to think that I was doing the right thing. I have even had women tell me to call them all the time. Because she wanted me too… I thought I should do it.

When you really like a woman you don’t realize some of the stupid things that you are doing. There is no way anyone could tell me that I was smothering a woman back then. I believed that is what all women wanted without really thinking it through.

Here is the real truth when it comes to managing your time with women.

If a woman really wants to talk to you, she will call you herself or show up at your door herself. If she is telling you to call her she isn’t missing you enough yet. Women will beg, change their schedules, and do almost anything to spend time with a guy she is attracted to.

The less time you spend with her, the more she will actually want you. If the time you spend with her is fun, enjoyable, and full of great experiences for her, then she will only want more of it. The more time you give her to think about those past experiences, the more she will anticipate the ones for the future.

So how much time should you spend with a woman you have just met?

3 days, 4 nights, 3 minutes, and 30 seconds.

Just kidding…

You give her as much of your time as you can currently spare for her. Remember that you are just starting to date. Your really don’t know her very well yet. Giving her all your time would be ridiculous.

Make certain that you are a busy guy. I don’t mean fake being busy. You have to have things to do, places to go, and hobbies. Make these things your priority over her until things progress further.

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What about nice guys?

They do to.

Who do women prefer?

Neither. They want something in between.

What Women Like About Bad Boys

- He makes his own rules
- He is a challenge
- He is exciting
- He is different then most of the other guys she meets
- He will walk away from her only to make her want him more
- He is extremely confident
- He is almost too selfish
- She can’t control him
- He is masculine
- He is a great flirt

The bad boy takes almost all of those things to an extreme. Most women prefer him to the nice guy because he is exciting and keeps her on her toes. However, she may eventually learn that she can’t settle into a long-term relationship with him.

What Women Like About Nice Guys

- He is a provider
- He respects her
- He supports her
- She knows he won’t hurt her
- He is stable
- He is good for marriage and family
- He looks out for her
- He listens to her

Some women do like nice guys. They want a guy they can start a family with and want his comfort. The downside is that she may eventually get bored with him and leave him for a guy who is more exciting.

Now if you could only combine some of those things together what would you have? You would have many of the characteristics of a charming man.

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You know the ones that I’m talking about don’t you?

That older guy that is walking down the street holding hands with a woman 10 to 20 years younger then him?

Today were going to take a look at how these guys do it and why younger women are attracted to these older men.

Are Age Gaps Okay?

It’s always a hot topic to discuss whether age gaps are a good thing or a bad thing. For me they simply mean two people who currently have a thing for one another. A gap is just a gap.

Some people make the argument that an age gap romance will never last. It’s a fair argument. With an age gap two people can grow apart very easily as they go through the different fazes of their life. Since there is an age gap it wouldn’t be hard for the two to grow apart.

If you take another look at this you will realize that people can grow apart even if they are of the same age. It happens all the time for many reasons. In my opinion this alone makes the argument of people growing apart because of age rather mute. People grow apart every day who are in very similar age range. That really is the bottom line.

Another thing you need to consider is that most relationships fail at some point anyways. A matter of fact all relationships will come to an end eventually. It doesn’t matter if there is an age gap there or not. You can’t stand in the way of death. That is a fact.

There will always be people who think that an age gap is wrong for various reasons. In the end its still a relationship. All relationships will come with there own issues.

Why Younger Women Like Older Men

Some people will say it’s because he is like a father to her. That may be the case for some women, but certainly not for the most of them. I can’t think of too many women who would want to date her father. She would like to date a man who has some of his qualities. But she will most likely look for those qualities in any many at any age range.

The truth is that a mans status rises with age. The older he gets the better he gets. Women like men who are of high status and high quality. This makes older men just perfect.

As he gets older he:

- Knows who he is.
- Is more comfortable with himself.
- Has experienced more at life.
- Would make a better father figure.
- Has established his career.
- Has accomplished more of his goals.
- Is more stable.
- Can be a better lover.
- Much more confident.
- Can have more engaging conversation.
- Is a better leader and decision maker.

There are probably many other things.

Why Older Men Like Younger Women

Most people will say that it is because he likes to walk around with a hot young woman on his arm. Maybe… But allot of these men are probably just as insecure about dating a younger woman as the woman is dating an older man. I’m sure many older men have put an end to things with a younger woman just because he couldn’t deal with thoughts of being seen with a younger woman.

The truth is that it is perfectly natural for men to be attracted to younger women. You may find it disgusting, but it really is just science. Younger women are the most fertile. This is why men will always enjoy looking at younger women and being around them. Men simply can not help it.

If your a woman in her 40 or 50’s don’t worry! There are reasons why men like older women too. Not every man is going to start dating younger women. It’s becoming more common for younger men to date older women!

What’s Right For You Now May Not Be Right For You Later

Now of days people look to date and maintain relationships that are good for them at a certain points in their life. Some people only want to date causally because they are busy establishing their career. Later on in life that same persons priorities may change. By the time they are 35 they might want to live a more settled lifestyle.

This all applies to age gap dating as well. A younger woman may be right for you right now and you might be right for her right now. As time passes things may change. You may no longer be right for one another.

This is just something you should keep in mind if you do choose to date a younger woman.
How To Date Younger Women

If your interested in dating a younger women there are some things you can do. The first thing you should do is get yourself in good shape. You got to be energetic, look good for your age, and feel good for your age. You need to be young at heart. Personality plays a big role.

Now you have to meet a younger woman. Where? Here are a few ideas.

- Yoga
- Online dating
- Malls
- Any classes. (Dancing classes, cooking classes.)
- Restaurants
- Coffee shops
- Just about anywhere

If your nervous about approaching a younger woman then all you have to do is wait for signals. Look for eye contact, smiles, her accidentally touching you, playing with her, and some those other usual signs. Watching for these signs can help save you some embarrassment of approaching a woman who finds older men gross.

Dealing With The Guilt Of Dating Younger Women

There is good chance that you will experience some guilt if you do flirt with and date younger women. Older women will most likely try to make you feel guilty if you do date younger women. If your divorced or separated your EX will probably give you a really hard time with it.

In the end you really have to go after what you want. If you happen to be attracted to a younger woman then why not take some time to get to know her? If it doesn’t work you can always go back to dating a woman of similar age.

It will be up to you to decide what age range you are comfortable with. Can you tolerate dating a woman who is in her early twenties? Maybe, but only if she is mature enough for you. Figure out what your age limit is and what sort of qualities she will need to posses for you to even consider dating her.

Conclusion

What all this comes down to in the end is two people who can make each other happy right now. Sometimes you just have to live in the moment. A woman who is the same age might make you miserable and a woman who is much younger may make you happy. Being happy is what it is really all about.

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How does a woman know that you are desperate?

How does she figure it out so fast?

Here are a few things that many men do to communicate to a woman that he is desperate.

- You use pickup lines. This doesn’t work because it shows her that you are out to pick her up and have sex with her immediately. You don’t know her yet and that is a turn off for just about any woman.

- You have a poor social life. This makes a woman believe that your chasing after her to fulfill that part of your life. Very lame.

- You use women to fulfill your needs. You can’t fulfill all your needs through a woman. Get your own life, with your own goals, and your own personal achievements.

- You don’t know how to control your sex drive. When most guys are horny they go to a bar, get drunk, and approach loads of women. Women can see this and pickup on it. You can use your need for sex in many other ways. Go work on your business or career, go accomplish that dream you want, and just find something else to focus on other then sex.

- You do anything to communicate to her that you seek her approval. Buying her lots of drinks, always paying her way, worshiping her, gift buying, agreeing with everything she says, and many other things.

What most of this boils down to is you using your need for sex to motivate you to excel in all areas of your life. This allows you to be the real man that all women want. When you have what a woman wants the whole meeting and dating thing gets allot easier.

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We all like to tell ourselves that someone else did it to us. We like to believe that things out of our control caused the problem. This holds true for dating.

Why is it that it is always the mans fault and never the womans?

Why is it that your always the one to make the mistake that causes your dating life to go wrong?

To be honest with you it isn’t always your fault. Women do things or behave in ways that don’t always make it easy for you. They may test you, try to disqualify certain behavior, and even put very little effort into the time that you spend with her. To be blunt, women make it easy for you to blame them.

In fact that is a test. If you do blame her then your giving her control and the ability to lead things down a certain path.

When it comes to dating women are not good leaders. Often a woman will either lead things towards friendship or just a messy argument.

You have to take control by blaming yourself. This takes the control away from the woman. It allows you to lead things towards a specific outcome that you want. It allows you to be in control of what you get.

When you hold yourself responsible it helps you learn things.

Where did you go wrong?

How can you handle that differently the next time?

This allows you to address problems that come up. If you blame the woman you will never learn anything.

Learn to hold yourself responsible for your own happiness. In some cases this may mean ending a date early, or even stop dating a woman because you are not enjoying her company.

Putting that woman in her place is probably the best way to blame her when she is being miserable to be around.

So, start blaming yourself today. Start learning from the things you have done wrong. And take back the control of your life.

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#1 Confidence

Were all confident more in some areas then we are in others. In order to be successful with women you have to become more confident around people. You should try to become more confident in all areas of your life.

I don’t know of any high quality women that don’t want a man who is confident with who he is.

You need more confidence if:

- You let fear stop you from going after things that you want. (Your dreams, goals, and women.)
- You don’t command respect from others.
- You seek other peoples approval.

#2 Humor

I think one of the reasons women like guys who are funny is because they plan on staying with a guy along time. When a guy is funny it means she will be in good company.

Humor isn’t that easy to learn. It takes practice and you have to be willing to look like a fool sometimes.

You can also over use humor. Some men look more like fools then they do like a guy with a sense of humor.

Here are a few tips on using humor.

- Show her that you can be serious too. Not everything is a joke.
- You have to time your humor. When somebody dies its not funny.
- Combine humor with sexual tension, flirting, and playfulnesses. Ex. If she spills something on her lick it off her.
- Realize that you don’t always have to be funny you just need to be fun.

#3 Masculine

This is something we are hearing more and more all the time from women.

As women have become more independent the less they want a nice guy. Its not about being able to provide anymore its about being able demonstrate strong masculine qualities. These are often traits that make a woman feel strong attraction and arousal.

To be more masculine you will often need to do the opposite of most dating advice.

- Don’t suck up to a woman.
- Don’t give her everything that she wants just because she wants.
- Don’t buy her things all the time.
- Don’t always be Mr. Nice Guy.

#4 Status

I have talked about status before. Its very hard for a woman to not swing her head to see a guy driving an expensive sports car. She can’t help it because it is a status symbol.

This doesn’t mean you have to drive a hot car. There is actually an interesting twist here. If you have lots of money it might be better to not drive a hot sports car. It could shock her how confident you are. How you don’t need to show off to people how rich you are and how modest you are.

Status can be conveyed in many different ways. Often just acting like you are a somebody rather then a nobody will work.

I personally have always used the more modest yet confident approach. I prefer not to brag or show off. I would much rather let her discover things about me over time. It offers her an element of surprise and perks her curiosity.

#5 Being Interesting

Being interesting is a hard one to explain. I don’t thing its the same as being different. Being different is something a woman would describe you as if she was attracted to you.

Here is how I’m going to put it.

You have to live a life that is interesting in order to be interesting.

- You have to have experienced things in your life to tell interesting stories.
- You have to have interesting things to talk about.
- You have to make normal conversation seem interesting.
- You have to offer her 1st times. Things she has never done before.

#6 Intelligence

It’s often been said that women don’t like geeks or nerds. But this doesn’t mean women are not attracted to intelligence. A matter of fact, intelligence is a very attractive quality.

- Intelligence means you will be able to pass on some of those smarts to your future children.
- Intelligence means you can get your family out of trouble and help them survive.
- Intelligence means you can engage in good conversation.
- Intelligence means you specialization is something. (Gives you Authority)
- Intelligence means you can teach her new things.
- The reason geeks and nerds struggle with women is because they are poor communicators.

Geeks are better at communication with other geeks and gadgets then they are with women.

#7 Stability

It’s hard to be interesting, exciting, spontaneous, and still offer a woman stability. If you can put all of it together then you will be something special.

Stability means you need to be the rock in her life.

- She can come to you when she has a problem.
- You listen to her.
- You don’t go gambling your money away.
- Your not a drug addict or alcoholic.
- You can be depended on.
- You are in control of your own emotions.
- You can help her be in control of her emotions.

Yet, you can still offer her fun and exciting experiences.

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It should be noted that allot of things women do to test men are things she doesn’t even know that she is doing. Many women will see these as “getting to know the other person”. While that is true to a certain degree it often goes well beyond that.

Here are 3 tests women use on men.

Test #1: The Trust Test

Are the things you say to her believable?

Do you mean the things you say to her?

Is your behavior for real?

These are the sorts of questions that go through a womans mind. She doesn’t know if she can trust you yet.

This is where a woman will try to ask you challenging questions and closely observe your behavior to see if you are what you perceive to be.

For example, you might be very charming and well dressed. You take her home to your place and your place is a mess. Its dirty, its stinky, and she hates it. At that moment everything she thought that you were just went out the window. She may never want to see you again.

There are many other examples I could give here, but I will stop at that one.

Test #2: How You Treat Others

I know that many women are very observant to how a man treats other people.

How do you use older people?

How do you use the waitress or waiter?

How do you behave around kids?

Do you hold the door open for others?

Do you look like your trying to impress her when you do those things?

The idea here is to show her that you respect others. You can still do this by being confident, funny, interesting, and allot of fun to be around.

Test #3: How You Handle Adversity

How do you handle difficult situations?

How calm are you when things do go wrong?

Do you take charge of the situation?

For example, what would you do if your car broke down on the first date? Do you get stressed out and angry? Do you keep apologizing for it? Do you joke about it and laugh it off? She will be watching to see how you handle yourself.

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