A new car?

Home theater?

A big house or fancy condo?

Have you worked really hard with the idea of getting rich?

Has any of that money really helped you get women?

Have you worked out to get really big muscles thinking that would get you the hot girl?

This type of attitude is all wrong. What you are really trying to do is get a woman to like you by showing her how great you are.

Confident men do not need to show how great they are. Those who are confident just assume that they are good enough just as they are.

Think of it like this.

What if a really fat girl walked up to you? She tells you she is rich, lives in a mansion, drives an expensive sports car, and all the things that she thinks makes her great. Would you think that she is attractive? Would you be tempted to sleep with this woman? You might, but only if your desperate.

The problem is that material things don’t get the woman. It’s always the man behind those things that she wants. And what she wants is a man who is comfortable with himself.. a man who doesn’t have to do anyone thing to try to impress her.

Here are a few examples of how not to impress a woman.

Trying To Be The Center Of Attention

This never works. It is very annoying. We all know someone who thinks that they need to be in the spotlight all the time.

What if you could put other people in the spotlight? What if you knew that sometimes you have to stand off to the side and let others soak up the attention? What if you could let other people impress you instead of you trying impress them?

Don’t take this too far though. Don’t become a turtle who goes and hides in his shell. Just realize the spotlight can be held over everyone.

Acting Like Something Isn’t Important To You

This is very tricky.

I just told you how material things are not very important to attraction, but that doesn’t mean those things can’t be important to you. It’s okay if you like cars and want to drive an expensive car. It’s not okay to use it to impress a woman.

This can get you into trouble over conversation.

You: I don’t like cars.
Her: Don’t you drive a Porsche.
You: Yes.
Her: Isn’t that allot of money to spend on a car that you don’t like?

Here is another example.

You: Money isn’t important to me.
Her: Then why did you bring it up?

Ouch that hurt.

Lets try this over again.

“I really love cars! I’m passionate about them. Ever since I was little I always wanted to own my very own Porsche”

“There certainly are more important things in life then money. But for me it’s not all about the money. It’s about the freedom and lifestyle it brings me. I enjoy being financially secure and not having to worry about making enough. I enjoy working hard for something and being rewarded for it.”

Trying To Tell Her Everything You Have Achieved

This is another common problem.

I have traveled here, there, and everywhere.

I’m the best at….

I have this amazing job and make x amount of money…

I have done…

All your doing here is qualifying yourself to her. This never works. Let her take interest in you by asking you questions. You can later show her pictures of where you have been and tell her stories of what you have done. But…let her take interest in you first.

Conclusion

This is just the beginning. There are many other things men do to try to impress a woman. Try to catch yourself making these mistakes. She doesn’t want to know how good you are. All she wants is a normal conversation with you to see where things go from there.

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Here is what they were talking about.

If a woman is interested, would she say maybe to your offer to go out sometime?

Here is the truth.

What woman would say maybe to a guy she is really interested in?

Hardly any woman would. Sure, some of them might play hard to get, but if she is really interested she can hardly wait to go with you. She knows that if she says no the whole opportunity could be lost.

That rule is not written in stone. Women can change their mind just like the wind changes the direction that it blows.

A woman may say maybe if there is other possible plans for her. Maybe she has plans to go shopping with her girlfriends or something else that is a possibility. What happens if those plans get canceled? That’s when you may become her next best option.

Here is what you do.

If a woman says maybe, give her your number.

“If you change your mind here is my number.”

Don’t tell her you will be waiting around for her call and don’t even bother waiting around for her to call you. Your putting your number out there to see if anything bites. Sometimes something bites, but often nothing will.

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The fear gets so bad that they start to lower their standards. They want to be able to see through that beauty, they feel ashamed for being attracted to beauty, and they no longer appreciate a womans beauty.

I have really big news for you!

It’s perfectly natural for you to want to look at, touch, be with, talk to, kiss, and be attracted to a beautiful woman. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Your just a normal guy. That’s all that it really means.

Don’t try to change the fact that men are attracted to beautiful women. Just accept it as the way things are. Women even like it this way. This is why they enjoy looking good, shopping, getting their hair done, wearing makeup, being feminine, and being a woman.

How To Finally See Her True Beauty

But, physical beauty is just the beginning. There is so much more that she has to offer underneath it. That is what you have to look for.

There will always be more beautiful women, but there will only be one of her. She has qualities that make her unique. Some of these are qualities you will like… some you will hate.

Discover, search, and find what makes her the unique, interesting woman, that she really is.

- Look at how she smiles. (She won’t smile like anyone else.)
- Listen to her laugh. (She won’t laugh like anyone else.)
- Find out how she views the world.(She won’t view it like anyone else.)
- Listen to what she says. (She has things to tell you that know one else can.)

Learn to appreciate the things that make her who she is. Take the time to actually get to know her. She’s not just a pretty face, she is really much more then just that.

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Witch one is really the best?

They all have there advantages and disadvantages, but the one that is still the best is the phone call.

Why the phone?

Because phone calls still show the most confidence. You won’t be hiding behind a computer, and she won’t be able to either. Let’s not forget that being able to hear each others voice is also important.

The main problems that most men have with phone calls are:

1.Too shy to call and talk over the phone.(Fear)
2.Getting her on the phone or getting her to call back.

The first one just means you have to practice more. Talk to some of your friends over the phone more often and talk to a friend before you call her. Get yourself in a social mood before you even give her a call.

The second one can be more difficult. You need to leave a compelling message on her voice mail, find when is the best time to call, or give out your number to get her to call you.

Leaving a compelling message takes some trial and error. Once you find a few that work you can use them on other women.

“Hi Sarah. I walked passed you today and said Hi. You just kept on walking like you didn’t even know me. I said to myself that girl sure is a…. Well you get the idea. I’m not sure if your as nice as I originally thought.”

I have no clue if that message would work at all. It’s just something I thought up while writing this. But the idea is to perk her curiosity and get her attention, and make her want to prove that she is nicer then what you think she is.

That message would probably work better if you have called her several times, and she has yet to return your call.

There are lots of different tricks you can use, but I’m going to stop there for now.

In summary:

- The phone is still the best way to contact a woman, but you should use other methods too.
- Practice talking over the phone if your not good at it.
- Get yourself in a social mood before you call her.
- Leave compelling messages that perk her curiosity to get her to want to call you back.

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Many women consider the first kiss to be very important. Some women place such a huge importance on the first kiss that it is a deal breaker for her. If the kiss is bad then all attraction will be lost.

I’m going to give you a few tips to help you get this right.

Just Going For It

There are worse things you can do then kiss her.

Some men hesitate, think about, look at her lips, and then finally decide not to even do it. This may go on for an entire date.

She knows that you want to do it. You will look weak if you don’t kiss her. Just lean in slow so that she can see it coming. This way she can back away if she isn’t ready.

Major Attraction First

Ideally you want some attraction, tension, flirting, and a good connection first. She will be more receptive to your kiss and will return a more passionate kiss.

- Is she flirting with you?
- Is she leaning in towards you with her body language?
- Is she tilting her head?
- Is she frequently touching you?
- Is she trying to come up with excuses to be alone with you?
- Is she trying to get closer to you and take away space?

These are just a few signs.

Getting The Kiss Right

There are very few things in movies and on TV that work well in the real world. This here is one of the exceptions to that rule. This is a variation of something you might see in a movie.

- Find a quite spot. (Somewhere where there are less people. This isn’t always the case. You can kiss on the dance floor at a club.)
- Look deeply in her eyes.
- Get closer to her and pull her hair back from her face a little. Put one hand above her hip or on it.
- Whisper in her ear. “I’ve been wanting to do this all night. I want to kiss you.”
- Tilt your head to the side a little bit and slowly lean in.
- Kiss softly and let things build with passion if she is really into it.

If things go really well she will almost go limp into your arms. Things can get very heated from here.

You don’t need to emphasis any tongue for the first kiss. It can be very soft, gentle, and even short to be enjoyable.

Your probably wondering about the kissing technique? All you have to do is kiss her the way she kisses you. If she gives lots of tongue, then you give lots back. The idea is to give her the type of first kiss that she wants.

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I still think the average guy wants one amazing girlfriend.

In this article today, were going to look at how you can attract high quality women to become your girlfriend. There are some major differences between having a girlfriend and just attracting random women. So if you want a girlfriend, then read this article carefully.

Decide What Kind Of Woman You Want

Not just any woman will do.

- Her being really hot isn’t good enough.
- Her being the first woman to kiss you isn’t good enough.
- Her being the first woman to go out with you isn’t good enough.

You have to have some idea of what you want and what you don’t want. You may have to meet allot of women before you can figure out what it is that you do like.

Develop Your Personality And Character

The more ordinary you are the less you stand out. I don’t just mean your looks. Want I’m talking about here is who you are as a person.

A woman can watch TV with any guy, but what can she do with you? What do you have to offer that other guys don’t?

Develop some hobbies and interests that are beyond the normal.

Get The Little Things Right

What are the little things?

How do you represent yourself? How do you dress? How well groomed are you? Is your home clean and in order? Are you self-reliant and independent? Are you happy with your job?

Don’t expect a woman to come into your life to look after you and make you more happy. She wants to be part of something where the two of you make each other happy. There has to be something in it for her.

Don’t Change Your Behavior

Allot of relationship go bad because one or both parties change.

The woman who stopped looking after herself… The man who no longer wants any excitement, but just wants to watch TV…

You have to keep doing the same things that you did to get her so that you can keep her.

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Getting laid mainly boils down to 3 things.

1.How you communicate to her
2.Your touch
3.Getting her to think about sex

Keep reading for the full details.

Tip #1: How You Communicate To Her

Lovers and friends communicate differently. All you have to do is go to any place where there is plenty of single people. Men and women will be giving out lots of intimate body language towards one another. You can do things that make her respond with those signals.

- Your body language matters.
- How you talk to her matters.

You want to talk mainly about her, tease her a little bit, give out the odd compliment, role play, challenge her, and talk with a sexy voice.

- Do not treat her like a friend.
- Don’t listen to all her problems.
- Be charming, but don’t be a wimp.

Tip #2: Your Touch

If you want to be her lover and not her friend, then you should have your hands all over one another. This doesn’t just happen instantly. You start with small touching and work your way up towards more intimate touching, until you get to the point where your having sex.

- Touch her hands
- Touch her arms
- Cuddle
- Kiss

On and on it goes. Make sure that you always start small with your touches. If you don’t you will look like a pervert.

Tip #3: Get Her To Talk And Think About Sex

This can be done with your language or ask her the right types of questions.

“Describe to me what a romantic night with your sweetheart would be like?”

Look her deeply in the eyes as she describes it to you. Watch her facial expressions, listen to her tone of voice, and watch her body language. You will probably notice a big difference in her.

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Step #1: Start A Conversation

Fairly straightforward. Ask her for her opinion or start conversation just for the sake of being social.

“HI ladies! I like meeting interesting people. Do you girls mind if I sit with you for a few minutes?”

“I’m looking for a good movie to watch. Got any good recommendations?”

Step #2: Lead The Conversation To About Her

Every bodies favorite conversation is themselves. Once you get her talking about a neutral topic it will get easier for her to open up about herself. She will also start to see that your interest in her is real. This is when you can start talking about normal stuff.

Step #3: Escalate

You have to move things forward to stay out of the friends zone.

“I noticed that you have a really sexy voice. I like that about you.”

Say something like that while you touch her on the hand, elbow, arm, or shoulder.

Step #4: Ask For The Instant Date

You have to get her to commit and get her to do something with you.

“There is a coffee shop right across from her. How about go grab a cup?”

Step #5: Get Her Contact Information

You won’t ever see her again if you don’t at least get her contact information.

“I’ve really enjoyed talking to you. Give me your e-mail so we can continue are conversation in the future.”

Conclusion

Again, you can add, skip, or move different steps to suit your own style. The one listed here is meant to be very simple for the average guy.

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I’m just going to give you a few random tips to help you out in meeting women in these areas.

Tip 1: Settle Into The Environment

The most desperate guys at the bar are ones approaching all sorts of hot women and offering to buy them drinks.

Relax and enjoy yourself. Buy a drink and do some people watching. Get yourself into a more social mood. Talk to other guys, people who seem interesting, and women you might not even be attracted too.

Tip 2: Look For Available Women

All women go to clubs to get attention. It doesn’t matter what they tell you. They don’t spend all that time in front of a mirror for nothing. Despite what they may tell you, they don’t do it to impress other women either. If they were dressing up to impress other women they would be going to a lesbian bar.

Because women are looking for attention you might not get anywhere with a large percentage of them. This is why you got to look around the bar and be aware of witch women are just looking for attention. Usually some eye contact and smile will help you filter through them.

Tip 3: Girls Night Out?

Remember what I said about finding women who are there to actually meet someone instead rather then just attentions? This is one reason why.

Don’t bother approaching women who are having a girls night out. The odds of you getting anywhere is stacked against you on this.

Tip 4: Tell Them Witch Girl You Like

At bars most women are going to be in groups. There is nothing wrong with talking to the whole group, but your not going to want to do that forever. Simply tell them witch one of them you like.

“I like your friend over here. I think she is cute.”

This will allow them to understand why your paying so much attention to her and to see that you like one another.

Tip 5: The Flirting Woman & The Easy Going One

There are 3 good ways to approach a women in a group, but two of them are ideal. I’m going to give you the two ideal ones.

1.The flirting woman: This is the woman you have been flirting with from a distance. She already likes you and that makes her easier to approach then one who may not.

2.The easy going woman: In most groups of women there is one that is easier to get to know then the others. She is more friendly and social. If you can identify that woman then you should approach her first.

The next time you head out to the club give some of those things a try.

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How can an average guy like you attract beautiful women like those jerks do without any effort?

Today were going to look at how you can do just that without being a jerk.

Jerks Are Proud To Be Jerks

Jerks, who always seem to get the hot woman are proud to be jerks. They are obnoxious and annoying. That gets a womans attention.

Women don’t really like them because they are jerks. Women like jerks because jerks like themselves and can’t be controlled. This is how they attract women effortlessly.

For example, if a woman wants to dance he will say no. The woman will then try hard to get him to dance. Just as she starts to get really angry and mad at him, he will grab her and start to dance with her.

In other words, he does things on his own terms.

Does This Mean You Have To Be A Jerk?

No you don’t.

A matter of fact, you probably already attract women effortlessly. Usually these are the women you aren’t attracted to back or are women that you don’t even know are attracted to you.

Here is an example from my own life.

I was once talking to a woman just for the sake of being social. This woman was significantly older then me. All of a sudden…

Her: Do you have any clue what your doing to me?
Me: Umm… No! What am I doing to you?
Her: Oh you have to know!
Me: I have no idea what your talking about.
Her: Your so much younger then I am.
Me: Right.
Her: Oh the things that I could do to you and teach you.

The next thing I know she is pulling on me and grabbing my hand to get me to dance with her.

I did nothing to try and attract this woman. The fact that I did nothing is what made her attracted to me.

There is a hidden lesson here.

When you give a woman special attention, when she hasn’t deserved it yet, you are pursing her. When you pursue a woman you often are in a different frame of mind. Your body language is different and you send out desperate vibes.

“You have to treat women you are attracted to just like you would if she was a woman you weren’t attracted to.”

You don’t stay in that mode forever. It’s just something you do in the early stages. This works because you are treating her like a normal person. Extremely beautiful women are often treated special because of their looks. You will only start to treat her differently once you find out that she has attractive qualities about her personality.

What you are essentially doing is showing her that her personality is what really turns you on.

I hope your starting to see how powerful this is.

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