In todays post were going to be taking a look at 10 key factors that will help you maintain an engaging conversation with any woman you choose.

1.Talk With Energy: Most men are so nervous that they mumble, talk in a low tone or too high pitch, and seem sad to be talking to her. Your aim should be to bring some energy to her life. The idea is to bring her up. Don’t be one of those guys who bring her down.

2.Don’t Dominate The Conversation: Have you ever been in one of those conversations where the other person never seems to shut up? It makes it hard for you to voice your own thoughts. Doesn’t it? It almost makes you seem like you can’t get away from them because they never shut up! Watch her carefully to see if she has anything to say. Watch her carefully to see if she is bored or wants to get away. This helps keep the conversation open.

3.Ask Questions: Open-ended questions work best. But you don’t always have to use open-ended questions. Sometimes just saying “really?” “what was that like?” will get her to give up more information.

4.Talk About What She Likes: Everybody’s favorite topic is themselves. If you only talk about what interest you, then the conversation will only be about you. Talk about her first. When she is ready she will ask you plenty of questions about yourself with lots of interest on her part.

5.Get Her To Teach You: When the conversation is on something you know nothing about don’t fake that you do know something. What you do is get her to teach you more about that topic. Ask questions, tell her to explain things, get her to demonstrate, and so forth.

6.Be Interesting: This has as much to do with not being boring as it does as being interesting. The more you talk about her the more interesting you will be. The more you relate to her, the more you talk to her about her fantasizes, and the more you mix it up with some humor the better.

7.Use Your Body Language: If you enjoy talking to her you can use your body language to encourage her to keep talking. Allot of guys now of days like to lean away from a woman. But..if you really enjoy talking to her leaning in a little bit after she has started talking will show her you like what you hear.

8.Adjust To The Environment: Normal conversation is rarely good enough if you are at a party or club. You need some energy, humor, fun, and even be comfortable with your sexuality. If a girl is wearing something that reveals her boobs you might say..”If I didn’t know any better I would think that shirt was designed to get me to look at your boobs.” That sounds almost too forward, but when done correctly you will get a surprising response from her. This sort of thing can help initiate the flirting.

9.Enjoy Her, But Don’t Workshop Her: One of the things you have to be careful with is trying to become too agreeable. This is when you start changing your opinions and values so that you can be more like her. Don’t be afraid to disagree. You just have to do it in the right way.

10.Challenge Her: This shows a woman that you have some guts. If she is wearing big glasses that make her stand out you could say “I hate it when people wear certain things just to stand out.” See how she responds to that. There is nothing wrong with ruffling a few feathers and getting under skin. You can be certain that she will do it to you.

If you can integrate some of what is taught here you should be able to have more success with your conversations.

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Have you ever felt like panicking at the sight of a beautiful woman?

Have you ever just froze and didn’t know what to do with yourself at the sight of a beautiful woman?

Well, your not alone. There are millions of men in this world who are the same way. Even if these men can muster up the courage to talk to a woman they struggle to keep the conversation going.

So how can you overcome this problem?

Here are a few tips to help you out in this area:

Tip #1: What’s The Penalty If You Don’t Talk To Her?

There is always going to be a penalty if you don’t talk to her. That penalty can be as bad as being rejected.

- You may feel you let yourself down.
- You may spend another night alone.

And so forth.

Use this as motivation to actually talk to her.

Tip #2: She May Be Just As Nervous

If she finds you attractive or at least is flattered by your interest, she could be nervous too. She may even have her own set of problems.

- Is he just another player?
- What does he want from me?
- Do I trust him?

Realize that your not the only one who has things to think about.

Tip #3: Will It Kill You?

Will you live another day if she rejects you? What is the worst that could happen?

Think of the worst outcome you can think of. Will that outcome kill you? How likely is it for that outcome really to come true?

Your fear causes you to imagine things that are not likely to even occur.

Tip #4: Find Common Interest

If your both nervous then it can help to find common interests. Ideally you want her to point out what you have in common. This gets her to chase you. However, some women may be shy and won’t search for common interest. Ultimately you need to adjust based on her personality.

Try using “Have you ever…” To get her opinion, to get her to agree, and to share herself.

“Have you ever had an experience as exciting as that?”

Conclusion

In the end you won’t ever be comfortable talking to women until you practice. One of the things you should try doing is talking to women for the fun of it. Don’t bother hitting on them or trying to get their number. Just talk for the sake of being friendly.

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Witch one is really the best?

They all have there advantages and disadvantages, but the one that is still the best is the phone call.

Why the phone?

Because phone calls still show the most confidence. You won’t be hiding behind a computer, and she won’t be able to either. Let’s not forget that being able to hear each others voice is also important.

The main problems that most men have with phone calls are:

1.Too shy to call and talk over the phone.(Fear)
2.Getting her on the phone or getting her to call back.

The first one just means you have to practice more. Talk to some of your friends over the phone more often and talk to a friend before you call her. Get yourself in a social mood before you even give her a call.

The second one can be more difficult. You need to leave a compelling message on her voice mail, find when is the best time to call, or give out your number to get her to call you.

Leaving a compelling message takes some trial and error. Once you find a few that work you can use them on other women.

“Hi Sarah. I walked passed you today and said Hi. You just kept on walking like you didn’t even know me. I said to myself that girl sure is a…. Well you get the idea. I’m not sure if your as nice as I originally thought.”

I have no clue if that message would work at all. It’s just something I thought up while writing this. But the idea is to perk her curiosity and get her attention, and make her want to prove that she is nicer then what you think she is.

That message would probably work better if you have called her several times, and she has yet to return your call.

There are lots of different tricks you can use, but I’m going to stop there for now.

In summary:

- The phone is still the best way to contact a woman, but you should use other methods too.
- Practice talking over the phone if your not good at it.
- Get yourself in a social mood before you call her.
- Leave compelling messages that perk her curiosity to get her to want to call you back.

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1.What is your worst bad habit. (This can bring up conversation about what her bad habits are, what is your worst bad habit, and what bad habits you have both overcome. This can also help you decide if you could put up with her bad habits.)

2.What is one of your most embarrassing moments that you laugh at now?(This can help bring out some stories, smiling, and laughter.)

3.Do you remember and ever think about your first boyfriend? What was he like?(This brings out feelings of love and relationships. It can also tell you what type of guys she likes to date.)

4.Do you remember your first kiss?(This can get her thinking about kissing. It also helps bring out some of those old feelings. She may even tell you how she likes to be kissed or how she doesn’t like to be kissed.)

5.What is your favorite thing to do when you need to relax?(This can help her feel more relaxed around you. Get her to describe how it makes her feel.)

6.Are you the romantic type? What is your idea of romance?(Gets her in a romantic mood and gets her to tell you how to seduce her.)

7.What is the most interesting thing about you that few know about?(This is to dig deep and find out what makes her interesting and unique.)

8.If you had all the money in the world what would you do with it?(A test to see how greedy she is, how spoiled she is, and how good of a person she is.)

9.What is your passion?(Digging deep again. Looking to find out what makes her who she is.)

10. If you could be any animal what would you be?(Just a good fun questions that can also be very interesting.)

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Step #1: Start A Conversation

Fairly straightforward. Ask her for her opinion or start conversation just for the sake of being social.

“HI ladies! I like meeting interesting people. Do you girls mind if I sit with you for a few minutes?”

“I’m looking for a good movie to watch. Got any good recommendations?”

Step #2: Lead The Conversation To About Her

Every bodies favorite conversation is themselves. Once you get her talking about a neutral topic it will get easier for her to open up about herself. She will also start to see that your interest in her is real. This is when you can start talking about normal stuff.

Step #3: Escalate

You have to move things forward to stay out of the friends zone.

“I noticed that you have a really sexy voice. I like that about you.”

Say something like that while you touch her on the hand, elbow, arm, or shoulder.

Step #4: Ask For The Instant Date

You have to get her to commit and get her to do something with you.

“There is a coffee shop right across from her. How about go grab a cup?”

Step #5: Get Her Contact Information

You won’t ever see her again if you don’t at least get her contact information.

“I’ve really enjoyed talking to you. Give me your e-mail so we can continue are conversation in the future.”

Conclusion

Again, you can add, skip, or move different steps to suit your own style. The one listed here is meant to be very simple for the average guy.

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You need to be able to maintain your authority when you are with a woman. Were going to look at how you can impress a woman and maintain that authority.

Your Appearance

The first thing she sees is how you dress, how you walk, your body language, and your overall sense of style. You really don’t have to look dominant or alpha as most people like to put it now of days.

You just have to look comfortable, relaxed, like your enjoying yourself, and almost as if the world moves at a different pace for you. Most people look stressed, busy, and as if they are in a hurry. Your relaxed presence will have a soothing effect on her.

Your Speech

The next thing that a woman is going to notice about you is your words. It isn’t so much what you say, but how you say it.

If you sound nervous, stutter, and mumble then you wont be congruent with your great appearance. A matter of fact, you will end up looking more like a liar. (Your not who you appear to be.)

Focus Your Attention

This is very important. Everything can fall apart right here if you don’t get this right.

Women are always on the lookout for liar’s. You have to be what you appear to be and be what she thinks you are. In other words, you have to be believable.

If you tell her a story, but can’t look her in the eyes, she won’t know if your telling the truth.

The same goes for asking her questions.

Don’t care about her answer? She won’t think your interest in her is real.

Don’t listen to what she says? She won’t think your interest in her is real.

Same thing with compliments too. Don’t tell her she is beautiful while you are staring at another woman.

Be Ready For Her Tests

She is probably going to test you to see if you can maintain your authority. She may ask you a challenging question to see if your lying or get on your nerves with her behavior. These sorts of tests need to handles correctly.

In many cases you can ignore her test, have her answer her own question first, or fight back by asking her a different question that will challenge her.

Don’t Suck Up To Her

Be nice, but not to nice too fast. Drink buying, gift buying, paying her way, and favors should be kept to a minimum early on. She may even try to get you to do those things early on as a test.

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I’ve written some about this before, but I’m going to give you another different spin on this.

I’m going to give you 3 step system that will help you overcome this fear of meeting women.

Step #1 Committing To Living In Your Own Reality

Why is this important? Because you are afraid of what she will think of you.

In your reality you are amazing. What you are afraid of is getting sucked into someone else’s reality. In their reality you are a dork, they hate the way you dress, the color of your hair, and even the way you walk.

Women can be very critical. If you wear a hat she might be disappointed to find out when you take it off, that you have no hair. She might be critical of many of the things you do, like, and have.

You have to commit to being you and loving you. You have to maintain the way you see yourself at all times.

Women will test you to see if you will change your opinions and views of yourself.

Her: I hate your T-shirt?
You: So? What’s your point?

Be strong. You wear what you wear because you like it. She doesn’t have to wear it, so her opinion doesn’t matter.

Step #2 Have Something Interesting To Say

Why is this important? Because your afraid you don’t have anything interesting to say, won’t know what to say, and will run out of things to say.

This doesn’t have to be that hard. If you ask open-ended questions you will be forcing her to say more then just “Yes” Or “No”. The more you focus on her the better. Add in your own opinions and comments so things don’t sound like an interview.

At the grocery store? Talk about food and cooking. If she ends up being Italian then you can talk about their culture, food and country. Are you getting the point?

Eventually you can even ask her what she does for a living, hobbies, and so forth. She will see and believe that you are interested in her by then.

Step #3 Know How To Respond To Rejection Responsibly

Why is this important? Because most men handle it very poorly and most men are hurt by it. They are so afraid of being rejected that they don’t bother to approach women.

Handle it with maturity. Other women could be watching and she may like you enough to introduce you to her friend that is close by. Most men don’t see things like that.

You: I enjoy talking to you. I would like to see you again.
Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: He’s a lucky guy. Make sure you tell him that for me will yeah?
Her: (Smiling) I will do that.

Don’t complain, don’t get rude, and don’t take it personally. Point your energy and focus to the next woman that is available.

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I’m just going to give you a few random tips to help you out in meeting women in these areas.

Tip 1: Settle Into The Environment

The most desperate guys at the bar are ones approaching all sorts of hot women and offering to buy them drinks.

Relax and enjoy yourself. Buy a drink and do some people watching. Get yourself into a more social mood. Talk to other guys, people who seem interesting, and women you might not even be attracted too.

Tip 2: Look For Available Women

All women go to clubs to get attention. It doesn’t matter what they tell you. They don’t spend all that time in front of a mirror for nothing. Despite what they may tell you, they don’t do it to impress other women either. If they were dressing up to impress other women they would be going to a lesbian bar.

Because women are looking for attention you might not get anywhere with a large percentage of them. This is why you got to look around the bar and be aware of witch women are just looking for attention. Usually some eye contact and smile will help you filter through them.

Tip 3: Girls Night Out?

Remember what I said about finding women who are there to actually meet someone instead rather then just attentions? This is one reason why.

Don’t bother approaching women who are having a girls night out. The odds of you getting anywhere is stacked against you on this.

Tip 4: Tell Them Witch Girl You Like

At bars most women are going to be in groups. There is nothing wrong with talking to the whole group, but your not going to want to do that forever. Simply tell them witch one of them you like.

“I like your friend over here. I think she is cute.”

This will allow them to understand why your paying so much attention to her and to see that you like one another.

Tip 5: The Flirting Woman & The Easy Going One

There are 3 good ways to approach a women in a group, but two of them are ideal. I’m going to give you the two ideal ones.

1.The flirting woman: This is the woman you have been flirting with from a distance. She already likes you and that makes her easier to approach then one who may not.

2.The easy going woman: In most groups of women there is one that is easier to get to know then the others. She is more friendly and social. If you can identify that woman then you should approach her first.

The next time you head out to the club give some of those things a try.

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For example, if you were learning how to play basketball you will miss allot of shots at first. If you stick with the learning process you will start to make more and more shots. The more shots you make the more your confidence builds. You will still miss shots even once you have gotten good, but by then you will have learned how to deal with those misses on a mental level.

As you can see, there really is no substitute for experience. Your going to have to accept rejection as part of the learning process.

Now I’m going to give you 3 tips that will help ease the pain of rejection.

Tip #1 Set A Realistic Goal

For some reason allot of guys think that a woman should fall head over heals for him right off the start. It doesn’t really work that way. Be realistic about what a woman will give you back.

Can you get her to talk about herself?

Can you make her laugh?

Can you make her smile?

Can you get her number?

These are some of the things you should be focusing on. Forget about buying her flowers and then expecting her to fall in love with you. I wouldn’t bother even making sex your primary goal. Sex has a tendency to make allot of men stupid.

Tip #2 Watch Her Body Language

One of the best ways to minimize rejection is by knowing when to make your moves and knowing when to back off. This is great to learn as it can help your confidence when your learning this stuff.

If a woman is giving you signs she is disinterested and bored then excuse yourself. But if she is giving you go signs then it’s time to make your move.

Tip #3 Accept It As A Learning Experience

Learning can be allot of fun if you let it be. Most men won’t let it be fun. They take things way to serious.

When you ask a woman out you are giving her a choice. She gets the choice to see you again or the choice to never want to see you again. That is her decision to make. All you have to do is respect that decision and see what you can learn from it if she isn’t interested in you. What ever you do don’t take a “no” personally. Often you will find that you really didn’t do anything wrong at all.

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Are you one of those guys who can’t start a conversation?

Are you one of those guys who doesn’t feel comfortable in the presence of a beautiful woman?

I have good news for you. Today were going to take a look at how you can over come your issues with shyness.

Tip #1: Go Where Your Comfortable

Forget about approaching women in places that make you feel uncomfortable. Go to places where you will feel comfortable meeting strangers. In many cases this will be places where you have interests. If you like to work out then starting a conversation at the gym might be a good idea. If you like to bowl then meeting women at the bowling alley might be a good place for you to meet women.

Obviously, with you being shy you will find it difficult anywhere. But you still need to push your boundaries a little. So if your going to push then push in places where you will be more comfortable.

Tip #2: Learn Small Talk

Learn to talk to people everywhere. If your at the grocery store ask the cashier how her day has been. Start saying Hi and asking people How are you? Most people will just think your friendly.

Little things like this will help you out a great deal when it comes to building conversation skills. You don’t have to just practice on beautiful women. Start by talking to anyone.

Tip #3: Ask For Her Opinion

When you are stuck for things to say just ask her for her opinion on something. It won’t seem weired if it is in context.

At the bookstore you can ask her for her opinion on a good book.

At the grocery store you can ask her for her opinion on food.

This works because most people are eager to offer their own thoughts.

Tip #4: Take Classes Or Join A Club

The best way for a shy person to meet people is through classes, clubs, or groups. You will have the same interests as others that are there and this makes it easy for conversation. You don’t have to put any pressure on yourself to meet women. You can just make friends with them and be social.

Tip #5 Don’t Use It As An Excuse

Most people have moments of where their not open to meeting new people or where they find someone a little intimidating. We can all be a little shy sometimes.

The problem is when you fall back on your shyness as an excuse to not approach women. You have to make the decision to not be shy around a specific woman. Let her see some of your better qualities.

It’s not “I’m too shy.”

Instead it’s… “I might be a little shy, but I want to get to know her. I’m going to go ahead and speak to her.”

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