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Have you bought anything lately with the hopes that it would help you out with the ladies?

A new car?

Home theater?

A big house or fancy condo?

Have you worked really hard with the idea of getting rich?

Has any of that money really helped you get women?

Have you worked out to get really big muscles thinking that would get you the hot girl?

This type of attitude is all wrong. What you are really trying to do is get a woman to like you by showing her how great you are.

Confident men do not need to show how great they are. Those who are confident just assume that they are good enough just as they are.

Think of it like this.

What if a really fat girl walked up to you? She tells you she is rich, lives in a mansion, drives an expensive sports car, and all the things that she thinks makes her great. Would you think that she is attractive? Would you be tempted to sleep with this woman? You might, but only if your desperate.

The problem is that material things don’t get the woman. It’s always the man behind those things that she wants. And what she wants is a man who is comfortable with himself.. a man who doesn’t have to do anyone thing to try to impress her.

Here are a few examples of how not to impress a woman.

Trying To Be The Center Of Attention

This never works. It is very annoying. We all know someone who thinks that they need to be in the spotlight all the time.

What if you could put other people in the spotlight? What if you knew that sometimes you have to stand off to the side and let others soak up the attention? What if you could let other people impress you instead of you trying impress them?

Don’t take this too far though. Don’t become a turtle who goes and hides in his shell. Just realize the spotlight can be held over everyone.

Acting Like Something Isn’t Important To You

This is very tricky.

I just told you how material things are not very important to attraction, but that doesn’t mean those things can’t be important to you. It’s okay if you like cars and want to drive an expensive car. It’s not okay to use it to impress a woman.

This can get you into trouble over conversation.

You: I don’t like cars.
Her: Don’t you drive a Porsche.
You: Yes.
Her: Isn’t that allot of money to spend on a car that you don’t like?

Here is another example.

You: Money isn’t important to me.
Her: Then why did you bring it up?

Ouch that hurt.

Lets try this over again.

“I really love cars! I’m passionate about them. Ever since I was little I always wanted to own my very own Porsche”

“There certainly are more important things in life then money. But for me it’s not all about the money. It’s about the freedom and lifestyle it brings me. I enjoy being financially secure and not having to worry about making enough. I enjoy working hard for something and being rewarded for it.”

Trying To Tell Her Everything You Have Achieved

This is another common problem.

I have traveled here, there, and everywhere.

I’m the best at….

I have this amazing job and make x amount of money…

I have done…

All your doing here is qualifying yourself to her. This never works. Let her take interest in you by asking you questions. You can later show her pictures of where you have been and tell her stories of what you have done. But…let her take interest in you first.

Conclusion

This is just the beginning. There are many other things men do to try to impress a woman. Try to catch yourself making these mistakes. She doesn’t want to know how good you are. All she wants is a normal conversation with you to see where things go from there.