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Today were going to talk about one the biggest problems most men have when it comes to meeting women. What is that big problem? Fear of approaching women. This is often known as approach anxiety.

I’ve written some about this before, but I’m going to give you another different spin on this.

I’m going to give you 3 step system that will help you overcome this fear of meeting women.

Step #1 Committing To Living In Your Own Reality

Why is this important? Because you are afraid of what she will think of you.

In your reality you are amazing. What you are afraid of is getting sucked into someone else’s reality. In their reality you are a dork, they hate the way you dress, the color of your hair, and even the way you walk.

Women can be very critical. If you wear a hat she might be disappointed to find out when you take it off, that you have no hair. She might be critical of many of the things you do, like, and have.

You have to commit to being you and loving you. You have to maintain the way you see yourself at all times.

Women will test you to see if you will change your opinions and views of yourself.

Her: I hate your T-shirt?
You: So? What’s your point?

Be strong. You wear what you wear because you like it. She doesn’t have to wear it, so her opinion doesn’t matter.

Step #2 Have Something Interesting To Say

Why is this important? Because your afraid you don’t have anything interesting to say, won’t know what to say, and will run out of things to say.

This doesn’t have to be that hard. If you ask open-ended questions you will be forcing her to say more then just “Yes” Or “No”. The more you focus on her the better. Add in your own opinions and comments so things don’t sound like an interview.

At the grocery store? Talk about food and cooking. If she ends up being Italian then you can talk about their culture, food and country. Are you getting the point?

Eventually you can even ask her what she does for a living, hobbies, and so forth. She will see and believe that you are interested in her by then.

Step #3 Know How To Respond To Rejection Responsibly

Why is this important? Because most men handle it very poorly and most men are hurt by it. They are so afraid of being rejected that they don’t bother to approach women.

Handle it with maturity. Other women could be watching and she may like you enough to introduce you to her friend that is close by. Most men don’t see things like that.

You: I enjoy talking to you. I would like to see you again.
Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: He’s a lucky guy. Make sure you tell him that for me will yeah?
Her: (Smiling) I will do that.

Don’t complain, don’t get rude, and don’t take it personally. Point your energy and focus to the next woman that is available.