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I bet your frustrated over your inability to ask a woman out on a date.

I bet your even more frustrated of being rejected.

That’s no problem. We have all been there. I’m going to give you a 5 step system that will help you increase your chances of getting a yes and help you deal with rejection at the same time.

Step 1: It Starts With Confidence

No surprise here. Everything starts with confidence. This is fairly straightforward. Stand up straight. Look her right in the eyes. Keep your hands to the side. Make sure you get your voice under control. You don’t want to be shaky or have a nervous sounding voice.

You need the right mindset too. Just assume that she will say yes and that she will want to go out with you. Be sure of yourself. Don’t let the self-doubt come over you. There are attractive women out there that are lonely and they want to spend time with you. Don’t make it easy for her to resit your charm. Put your focus right on her.

Step 2: Have A Plan

You have to have some sort of idea of what you would like to do before you ask her out. This keeps you ready and reduces anxiety.

Your plan could be just about anything. Just make sure you stay away from the normal. Dinner and a movie is an average date at best. The more original your offer is the more tempting it will be.

Step 3: How To Ask Her Out

Ideally you want to ask her out in person. I have done it over the phone, text messaging, and e-mail. In person is always the best because, it shows confidence, and it makes it harder for her to reject you when she has to look you in the eyes.

As for words, you don’t want to say something that makes it easy for her to reject you. “Would you like to go out sometime?” makes it easy for her to reject you.

“I want to see you again. We should get together for coffee sometime.” This is much more powerful. This shows her that you aren’t afraid of wanting to see her again or getting rejected.

Step 4: How To Handle A No

Rejecting isn’t serious, but most men handle it as if they were just diagnosed with a rare disease. So don’t try to handle it. Respond to it and accept it. When you ask a woman out you are just giving her a choice. The choice is hers. It was your choice to ask her out. It is your role as a man to make that choice. It is her role as a woman to say yes or no.

It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you and she may not even no why she said no. She can only reject you based on what she knows about you so far. In many cases she knows very little about you. Live your life with abundance rather then scarcity. There are plenty of women for you to meet.

You can politely continue the conversation or end it. You can even ask again. Sometimes persistence can pay off.

Step 5: Make Her Commit

You: I want to see you again. We should get together for coffee sometime.
Her: I would like that.
You: Good. How does Thursday afternoon sound?
Her: Good.
You: I’ll meet you at the Hot Buba Wuba Coffee House then.

Women can be flaky and very spontaneous. If she can find something better to do on Thursday afternoon then meet you for coffee then she will. Get her to commit as soon as you can. Don’t wait and call her over the phone.

Conclusion

One thing that I didn’t mention is this article is how much she is attracted to you and enjoys talking to you. If she already finds you compelling then these five steps will almost guarantee you a date. But if she has already decided that she doesn’t like you or if she has a boyfriend then these steps probably won’t work. You simply can’t force a woman into liking you or make her give up on her boyfriend if she is in love.