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When you pursue a woman you are giving that woman power. You are committed to making things work between you and her. This causes you to place a high level of importance on this woman.

When you stop pursuing a woman you take back that power. Nothing she can say or do to you will bother you.

She doesn’t show up on a date? Who cares you have other things you can do.

She doesn’t call you back? Doesn’t matter. You probably won’t wait for her call anyways.

She is out on a date with another guy? Is doesn’t matter either. You are out on a date with another woman.

Men who run around chasing after women are stressed. They feel the pressure of approaching a woman, of calling a woman, of getting her to commit to a date, and just getting her to put more of their attention on them.

What if you could stop aggressively pursuing a woman? What if you could let her do a little more of the chasing? Doesn’t that sound a little bit better?

I don’t think you can give up on pursing a woman altogether. I do think that you have to get the woman putting more effort into pursuing you. For the most part this is an attitude adjustment more then anything.

Here are a few things you might want to try.

- Try giving out your number and contact information more often.
- Always have other options when it comes to making plans with a woman and dating women.
- Set rules for how many times you will call a woman before she will call you back. Don’t just keep trying the same woman over and over again.
- Don’t wait to long for a woman to show up or call you.
- Don’t just cook her dinner let her cook you dinner.
- Don’t try to impress her let her try to impress you.
- Stop jumping through a bunch of hoops for her. Let her jump through some hoops.
- Women are not rare. If one doesn’t treat you equally then find one that will.
- Have your own rules. She will have to agree to those rules or you will find a different woman who will agree to them.

More then anything you need to find an equal balance. If she is doing all the work then the process can become a challenge for her, but not necessarily something she will put up with forever.