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Probably one of the more difficult things for a man to do is a call a woman he just met for the first time. It’s hard to know if she will be the same person over the phone as she was in person. There is also some added pressure there if you are going to be asking her out on a first date.

Were going to take a look at 5 tips that can help you deal with some of the problems that come up when calling a woman for the first time.

Tip #1: Have A Backup Plan

If your feeling lots of pressure and nervousness then it’s because you are placing a huge amount of important on this call.

What are you going to do if you can’t reach her by phone? Don’t just wander around your home wondering what she is doing and why you can’t get a hold of her. Be busy by having things to do yourself.

What are you going to do if she says no to getting together? Do you have other plans that you can fall back on? Are you going to hang out with the guys? Do you have other womens number that you can call.

You have to keep your options open. Women can be flaky at times and you need to deal with it in the right way. If you don’t deal with it correctly you will find yourself disappointed allot and will eventually have its effects on your confidence.

Tip #2: Get Her E-mail Too

Many women are not the same over the phone as they are in person. There are lots of different reasons for this that I wont get into here. I find that getting both the womans e-mail address and her phone number to be very effective. There is advantages and disadvantages to both. I think that you will find e-mail to be very effective because she can respond to it whenever she gets time to do so. Text messaging her cell phone can also be effective. Just realize that her phone number alone isn’t your only option.

Tip #3: Have Something Interesting To Say

You don’t want to just blab on and on over the phone. It will leave nothing to say in person and your more likely to say something stupid because of your nervousness. However, it will help to say a few interesting words before you get to asking her out. By talking a little you bring back some of that original first impression you gave her. Bring up something that you know would interest her based on what you have learned about her so far.

Tip #4: Call When You Say You Will Call

If you tell a woman when you will call her make sure that you do call her at that time. This shows her that you are a man of your word. If she’s not home then just leave a message. You have to show her that you are a man of integrity. Sounds simple, but it drives a woman crazy when a guy doesn’t call when he says he will. Don’t expect her to be waiting for your call. That would be expecting too much from her.

Tip #5: Call Her When You Are Ready

There has been allot of rules made up for when the best time to call a woman is. Some of those rules have been proven and some of them aren’t. I generally live by the philosophy of “I’ll call her when I’m free to do so.” In some cases I may never get around to calling a woman because I’m too busy doing something else. By adapting this frame it keeps you in control. Be careful that you don’t use that frame of mind as an excuse to not call any women.

Of course if you tell her you will call then make sure that you do. See number #4 for more information on that.