How Dirty Old Men Date Hot Young Women
By Tyler on Jun 2, 2008 in Dating & Seduction Tips, The Female Mind
Have you ever wondered how these older men do it?
You know the ones that I’m talking about don’t you?
That older guy that is walking down the street holding hands with a woman 10 to 20 years younger then him?
Today were going to take a look at how these guys do it and why younger women are attracted to these older men.
Are Age Gaps Okay?
It’s always a hot topic to discuss whether age gaps are a good thing or a bad thing. For me they simply mean two people who currently have a thing for one another. A gap is just a gap.
Some people make the argument that an age gap romance will never last. It’s a fair argument. With an age gap two people can grow apart very easily as they go through the different fazes of their life. Since there is an age gap it wouldn’t be hard for the two to grow apart.
If you take another look at this you will realize that people can grow apart even if they are of the same age. It happens all the time for many reasons. In my opinion this alone makes the argument of people growing apart because of age rather mute. People grow apart every day who are in very similar age range. That really is the bottom line.
Another thing you need to consider is that most relationships fail at some point anyways. A matter of fact all relationships will come to an end eventually. It doesn’t matter if there is an age gap there or not. You can’t stand in the way of death. That is a fact.
There will always be people who think that an age gap is wrong for various reasons. In the end its still a relationship. All relationships will come with there own issues.
Why Younger Women Like Older Men
Some people will say it’s because he is like a father to her. That may be the case for some women, but certainly not for the most of them. I can’t think of too many women who would want to date her father. She would like to date a man who has some of his qualities. But she will most likely look for those qualities in any many at any age range.
The truth is that a mans status rises with age. The older he gets the better he gets. Women like men who are of high status and high quality. This makes older men just perfect.
As he gets older he:
- Knows who he is.
- Is more comfortable with himself.
- Has experienced more at life.
- Would make a better father figure.
- Has established his career.
- Has accomplished more of his goals.
- Is more stable.
- Can be a better lover.
- Much more confident.
- Can have more engaging conversation.
- Is a better leader and decision maker.
There are probably many other things.
Why Older Men Like Younger Women
Most people will say that it is because he likes to walk around with a hot young woman on his arm. Maybe… But allot of these men are probably just as insecure about dating a younger woman as the woman is dating an older man. I’m sure many older men have put an end to things with a younger woman just because he couldn’t deal with thoughts of being seen with a younger woman.
The truth is that it is perfectly natural for men to be attracted to younger women. You may find it disgusting, but it really is just science. Younger women are the most fertile. This is why men will always enjoy looking at younger women and being around them. Men simply can not help it.
If your a woman in her 40 or 50’s don’t worry! There are reasons why men like older women too. Not every man is going to start dating younger women. It’s becoming more common for younger men to date older women!
What’s Right For You Now May Not Be Right For You Later
Now of days people look to date and maintain relationships that are good for them at a certain points in their life. Some people only want to date causally because they are busy establishing their career. Later on in life that same persons priorities may change. By the time they are 35 they might want to live a more settled lifestyle.
This all applies to age gap dating as well. A younger woman may be right for you right now and you might be right for her right now. As time passes things may change. You may no longer be right for one another.
This is just something you should keep in mind if you do choose to date a younger woman.
How To Date Younger Women
If your interested in dating a younger women there are some things you can do. The first thing you should do is get yourself in good shape. You got to be energetic, look good for your age, and feel good for your age. You need to be young at heart. Personality plays a big role.
Now you have to meet a younger woman. Where? Here are a few ideas.
- Yoga
- Online dating
- Malls
- Any classes. (Dancing classes, cooking classes.)
- Restaurants
- Coffee shops
- Just about anywhere
If your nervous about approaching a younger woman then all you have to do is wait for signals. Look for eye contact, smiles, her accidentally touching you, playing with her, and some those other usual signs. Watching for these signs can help save you some embarrassment of approaching a woman who finds older men gross.
Dealing With The Guilt Of Dating Younger Women
There is good chance that you will experience some guilt if you do flirt with and date younger women. Older women will most likely try to make you feel guilty if you do date younger women. If your divorced or separated your EX will probably give you a really hard time with it.
In the end you really have to go after what you want. If you happen to be attracted to a younger woman then why not take some time to get to know her? If it doesn’t work you can always go back to dating a woman of similar age.
It will be up to you to decide what age range you are comfortable with. Can you tolerate dating a woman who is in her early twenties? Maybe, but only if she is mature enough for you. Figure out what your age limit is and what sort of qualities she will need to posses for you to even consider dating her.
Conclusion
What all this comes down to in the end is two people who can make each other happy right now. Sometimes you just have to live in the moment. A woman who is the same age might make you miserable and a woman who is much younger may make you happy. Being happy is what it is really all about.
Sabina | Jun 2, 2008 | Reply
True about they might be right for you right now, but then again most young women are also looking for a stable relationship
So maybe Miss Right Now can turn into Miss Right!
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Kenji | Jun 3, 2008 | Reply
I’m one of those older men dating a younger woman and I agree. Younger women really do like the fact that you are more mature then boys her own age and she likes seeing who you are now and using you as a helping hand in the direction she wants to go.
You always have to remember that with her being younger than you, you have to be the adult. Even if you are both adults :p, some day she may out-grow you so you just have to enjoy the ride while it lasts. If it ends up lasting forever, who are you to complain? I’m 7 years older than my current girlfriend and it’s a blast every single day!
Bunny | Jun 30, 2008 | Reply
When an older man is dating with a woman 20-25, the following things have to be remembered:
1. Nothing is more prolific of fruitless controversy than an ambiguous question. Do not problemize over what she thinks. At the momnet you do, you are lost, and then everything is gone.
2. Do not ask her for anything, or do not require her to do something. Just reply to her messages. If she asks “do you want to meet”, answer “yeah, just call if you want to meet”. Do not ask “Yes, when and where?”.
3. Do not take too much shit.
4. Do not serve her too much.
5. Do not contact her, let her contact you. Or if you contact her, just ask how is she doing at the most.
6. Listen to her, perhaps she’ll start talking.
Patricia | Sep 18, 2008 | Reply
i’m 18yo and my bf is 30 weve had our ups and downs and i totally agree with this article.
It gets really hard sometimes going through different things, he can help me with mine since hes already been through them but when it comes to him i just have to be there for him even though i havent been through it im just there for him i listen and i try to help as much as i can.
and omg so true his xwife gave him a super hard time about it.
but we love each other so much its very worth it.
Give me a Break | Oct 1, 2008 | Reply
All those things you would like to think about older men are very stereotypical. Not every person who ages becomes mature. Maturity is something a person evaluates with their experience and it is true for the most part that the longer a person lives the more they will have to endure. This is not necessarily a good thing because the younger you are the less you experience so where is the common ground? What if the younger person has experienced and endured more with much more maturity than an older person who has not had experience in the same sense that seems childish? Also you fail to realize that physical attraction comes from not the need to have children because that is purely psychological (people want to reproduce to try to correct their mistakes or not to be lonely or by accident and maybe just to learn about humans) but it comes from the ability to communicate physically, chemically, mentally, and effortlessly so it’s pretty obvious that the bodies need to match to reach true attraction otherwise you are making excuses for deep rooted problems you cannot seem to face. 10 years is not so bad even 15 but when you get to the age that a person could be your parent then they are.
annette | Dec 13, 2008 | Reply
okay, but what about the 65 yr old that is still trying to date younger women? He is trying to reproduce? he already has two children by two different women and he acts immature. He is ugly fat and sagging skin…gross.
Tyler | Dec 14, 2008 | Reply
You have a point Annette. But does that apply to all 65 year old men? Some 65 year old men might want to date a 50 year old women not a 25 year old. Some guys in their twenties may also be considered immature, fat, and ugly.
Terry | Mar 10, 2009 | Reply
Well, I am 57 years old and I cannot imagine being with a woman over 35 years old. I like the vitality and enthusiasm. I believe that I am a good match with someone that is of that age group. Enjoying life and having fun is the key. I do believe that the most important thing in any relationship is making each other happy. I’m sure that most people would say that I should be dating someone closer to my own age, but it seems that those women and I are from different worlds.
S Smith | Mar 22, 2009 | Reply
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Dalila | Apr 2, 2009 | Reply
I’m 23 and dating a 52. We do have different views and opinions, but we sort it out through communication. I love him dearly. The truth is, I don’t even think about his age. Any man from any age can be mature or immature. Bless my man, he’s not fat and saggy. <3
Siobe | Apr 10, 2009 | Reply
I am 45 and married a 56 yrs old man. at first I really love him and i thought He is the right man for me. but as time goes by I saw hes not the man Im looking for. aside for being Fat and saggy I found out that hes still dating a younger women on bars. thats makes me very angry and as time goes by , I know I will be fallen out of love for him. the love I have for him turn to hatred little by little. but I just keep it to myself. I share to you my experience just to let you know that not all old men are good in conversation and a great lover. maybe the man I marry is more immature than some young men out there.and U said they are more stable, I dont agree with that. the older they are the tougher they were. this is the most regret i ever had in my life. I should not marry an older man . If I were to choose, I raher choose a man same age with me. my biggest mistake in life.
jerry | May 19, 2009 | Reply
What are you 25 fat, ugly and gross. Do not judge what you do not know. I am 55 and married to a 25 year old we have a beautiful marriage and expecting our first. I never had any children and have been divorced 20 years from my ex.
Jim | May 30, 2009 | Reply
I am an older man who dates a 23 year old woman. We get along pretty well. We do have a few communication problems from time to time. We work it out. By the way, I am not fat and ugly but trim at 180 pounds,6 feet tall and workout a few times a week at the gym. Being fit means I can fuck her several times every night and it is really good. The age has nothing to do with your condition. If a man does not drink, smoke or do drugs and eats correctly, he can fuck a young senseless every day well into his 70’s.
Ryan | Jun 3, 2009 | Reply
Its all about the girl. What ever she wants she gets, she wants a rich old guy, then she gets one. Guys your full of your self if you think its about you. Remember college…18 and hot as hell girls, some only dated guys out of college, some thought guys over 21 were gross. Girls rule the world.
Robert | Jul 19, 2009 | Reply
I am a male whom just turned 50. Was married to a woman 10 yrs. younger for 24 yrs. Now divorced i have no disire to date women my own age. Have tried and all have major issues. Menapause,health problems,mental issues, overweight and it goes on and on. Younger women are carefree, beautiful, soft, attractive , sexually active,no mental issues,take care of theirselves,like to have fun and fun to be around. Why would a sexually fun loving man my age want anything else?
bigAl | Aug 18, 2009 | Reply
Amen brother! I am a man of 56 who just married a beautiful woman of 34, who looks like she is a 20 year old high school cheerleader! She is the sweetest person I have ever met or been with. We dated for 4 years before we got married with a very small wedding.
We have our challenges in life but now it just seems easier. She doesn’t carry the anger or bitterness that a 40 or 50 year old woman would. If she does something to bother me, I get over it by looking at her 105 lbs walk by me in her bra and panty’s
She smells like the fountain of youth. Being that 60 is the new 40, I am now 36!
Why did she marry me? I promised her I would dedicate myself to taking care of her-emotionally & physically. Something no other man had the ballz to do!
I’m not a rich man and drive a Craigs List - 1996 Ford Tauras.
It’s not about money. It’s about a REAL yoked relationship before God!
Note: I was married the first time for 25 years to a woman my age, who I started dating in high school. Over the years we change just got tired of each other and split up after the 3 kids moved on.
Opinionated | Aug 29, 2009 | Reply
Dear Patricia and Author,
You are mistaken about why she is giving him a hard time. If you two were the same age she would still have given him a hard time. True older when are sometimes insecure or feel like they aren’t good enough or pretty as the other woman, but karma is a b*tch! I work in the medical field and often giggle at these men, when their 28y/o wife gets compliments from younger men or they look at their wives like, she so beautiful. Its classic but you know what Pat, you too will age and if he likes em young, you too will feel your days #’d. Write back when your 38, and his new secretary is young and hot!
Opinionated | Aug 29, 2009 | Reply
OMG, he soon will be an old bag. Hope he’s got money. I think I just threw up in mouth! Anyway Psychology says when you date so much younger b/c you have not matured yourself. You have to deal with your partner on their level and a 50 y/o can’t do it with a 23 y/o, unless you are an old sole even then 20 yrs is too much 10 yrs still enough in your range to connect. He’s watching F-troop, while your waiting for the Real World to come on. Face reality, women are so insecure they are willing to accept less not to be alone, that’s where mistresses, affairs, and lots of divorces come from b/c women are willing to put up with anything!
opinionated | Aug 29, 2009 | Reply
Really what could a 57 y/o man hold daily conversations with a 30 y/o about. Do you know what the lastest style is have you given her your bank card? Is that you know how to have fun or do watch her have the fun and look on as a lonely bystander not really able to join in. And plz don’t tell me you are trying to populate b/c when your child is 10 and your 67, what could you possible give him other than $. Most old men are spring boards 4 what women want, money, steady home, and security so they settle 4 dried nuts as oppose to juicy well nuts!
dude89 | Aug 30, 2009 | Reply
a couple of lying old fat guys on here..funny. its nice to live in a fantasy world. I travel all over the us and there aren’t that many old men dating hot young girls unless for money in vegas. oh, I’m one of the hot fit girls that you guys drool over so no jealousy here… rock on with the fantasy though boys since it is good for the soul. peace.
why not | Aug 31, 2009 | Reply
Opinionated sounds like a bitter person. “Really what could a 57 y/o man hold daily conversations with a 30 y/o about.” Are you saying that a 30yo woman is to stupid to hold a good conversation with a 57yo? I am a little amazed that there are such age differences for some of you. I am 42 in really good shape and just recently started dating a very good looking and smart 26 yo. It was more her idea than mine and it took me awhile to actually come to the conclusion of why not? She is very interesting and can hold a much more intelligent conversation than many woman my age. She has previously dated men both her age and some near my age. I generally have dated very close to my age. I am divorced from an over 15 year marriage with 1 15yo son and 1 25yo step son that I raised since he was 5. She has never been married. I am not looking for more children but you never know. I would hate to be a new father past age 45 because I don’t think it is fair to the child (personal opinion). Not sure how that will turn out when she gets into her 30’s but you can’t predict the future in any relationship. Otherwise we would all die after being married to our high school sweethearts. By the way, I have noticed more and more older men dating younger woman but none of the guys are fat and ugly. I think it is because they know how to treat them like they should be treated, like a lady. I may be way off base but I’m going to enjoy my ladies company and as long as we are both happy, why not?
Onlyme | Oct 26, 2009 | Reply
I just recently started dating an older man. The age gap is huge. We’ve both been attracted to each other for a few years and now we’re giving it a shot. I hate to say this but i am concerned about the age differance and it does make me worry. I’m sure he is a little worried about it too tho. I’ve always been attracted to older men and have dated 10+ years older than me. I’ve only dated one guy close to my age 5yr diff and that wasn’t a problem either. I think we are all looking for something and we all want to ezperience as much as we can so…why not? I can say that i don’t want him for his money or status or anything like that. We’ve just plain old been attracted to eachother for a long time! We have great conversations and have for a few years so…why not?
mya | Dec 27, 2009 | Reply
so i cant believe this..i am a 38 year old woman.I look 28..i have kept myself in great shape my whole life..to defend woman my age..I am sorry but there are alot of fat saggy twenty some out there male and female.
It has always been that men dated younger woman..but men no matter how much money you have..woman my age have two things going on..we are still attractive and we have our own money these days..
we too like the chase of younger cubs..the young hot sexy boys who can keep up with our raging hormones..not have issues with getting it up..or lasting…younger men wanna please us..we are bored with older men..i mean why should we be the only ones looking sexy?This is 2009..hit the gym guys..because you have no idea..we think just like you…you now have to worry about younger men taking the young ones….and us..the hot older woman..who can take care of herself..gonna go find me some hot youngman to rock my world!
For Why Not | Jan 5, 2010 | Reply
“Opinionated sounds like a bitter person. “Really what could a 57 y/o man hold daily conversations with a 30 y/o about.” Are you saying that a 30yo woman is to stupid to hold a good conversation with a 57yo? I am a little amazed that there are such age differences for some of you. I am 42 in really good shape and just recently started dating a very good looking and smart 26 yo. It was more her idea than mine and it took me awhile to actually come to the conclusion of why not? She is very interesting and can hold a much more intelligent conversation than many woman my age. She has previously dated men both her age and some near my age. I generally have dated very close to my age. I am divorced from an over 15 year marriage with 1 15yo son and 1 25yo step son that I raised since he was 5. She has never been married. I am not looking for more children but you never know. I would hate to be a new father past age 45 because I don’t think it is fair to the child (personal opinion). Not sure how that will turn out when she gets into her 30’s but you can’t predict the future in any relationship. Otherwise we would all die after being married to our high school sweethearts. By the way, I have noticed more and more older men dating younger woman but none of the guys are fat and ugly. I think it is because they know how to treat them like they should be treated, like a lady. I may be way off base but I’m going to enjoy my ladies company and as long as we are both happy, why not?”
Oh, and it’s “too” stupid, not “to” stupid, you “intelligent”, brilliant conversationalist. Oh, and I’m YOUR age. Hmmmm.
I learned proper English and sentence composition, it’s obvious YOU didn’t.
And what business is it of YOURS if somebody, male or female, has a child at 45? It’s not like would be setting a BAD example for their 15 year olds, or anything (MAJOR hint to you, dude)
You need intelligence and maturity in order to know how to recognize it. Is your little gal friend able to compose a proper sentence?
Time to get over yourself, hon.
Over 40 gal | Jan 5, 2010 | Reply
I wouldn’t date anybody over 40. Honestly, most of them are not worthy of me. I like wit, class, and vigour.
Don’t want a sorry assed guy with a beer gut and the usual control issues.
Jzecri | Mar 24, 2010 | Reply
In practical reason Hot Girls likes to go out with an older guys for a MONEY reason. I have a friend who has a relationship with the Rich old man. She’s 21 year old, married and have two kids. She chooses to leave his family(husband and kids) for her to be with the old man. Her Purpose? is to has a better life, eat delicious foods, wear glamorous dresses, she can do everything in the name of money!! She never thinks what her kids really feels about what she did. http://www.everywomansblog.com/why-do-men-find-older-women-more-attractive
Feel sorry for your husband | Apr 18, 2010 | Reply
Of course for money!!! America loves to promote her gold-diggers.