31 Reasons Why Being A Nice Guy Sucks
By Tyler on Jun 2, 2008 in Confidence, Dating & Seduction Tips
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Here are a few reasons why you may not want to be that nice guy you thought you were suppose to be.
1.You get to become her little favor boy. (Buy her stuff, do favors for her, and get nothing back in return.)
2.You get a kiss on the cheek, but never where you really want it.
3.You get to poor out your feelings for her just so you can hear “I had no idea that you felt that way.”
4.You get to watch the woman of your dreams date one jerk after another.
5.You will spend many nights alone.
6.You will spend more time watching porn then you will making your own porn.
7.You will spend lots of money taking women to expensive restaurants while some other guy takes women for a walk in the park and gets laid doing it.
8.You will have to take whatever woman that will have you rather then the woman that you really want.
9.You will spend more time dreaming and fantasizing about the dating life you want rather then living the dating life you want.
10. You have to listen to women tell you what a great guy you are, how nice you are, and how sweet you are. Those same women would never want to date you.
11. You get to have women cry on your shoulders.
12. Women will love to talk to you because they can tell you all about their problems.
13. You will call many women only for them to never return your call.
14. You will have to hear women tell you that your not their type.
15. Women tell you all the time that they are busy. That same woman will call you up later because she needs to talk about her problems or she will want you to do a favor for her.
16. You get to live your life thinking that someday the right woman will come along who will treat you nice and want you back.
17. You get to believe that being really nice is the right way to make a woman love you.
18. You spend your entire life believing that by being really nice your simply being yourself.
19. You will eventually find a woman who will want to marry you just because you are nice.
20. Your future wife who married you because you are nice will eventually cheat on you do to “nice guy boredom syndrome.”
21. Women will push you around as if you were a nobody.
22. You will be expected to buy women many drinks at the bar.
23. You will buy a woman her favorite flowers only for her to shove them to the side or throw them out all together.
24. You will approach many women thinking that you are bothering her instead of thinking your the best thing to ever happen to her.
25. You might set a world record for trying to woo the same woman for many years.
26. You will work your ass off thinking that you need to be rich, drive a great car, and live in a mansion only to find out that the best woman you can get is a gold digger.
27. You get to make your mom proud for being so darn nice.
28. You will respect women only to find out that women don’t respect you.
29. Women will tell you how much they want to meet a nice guy. Unfortunately, as nice as you are, they don’t see you as that nice guy that they want to meet.
30. People will tell you to just be yourself even when that’s what you think that you have been doing all along.
31. Women will mistaken you as one of their girlfriends or as a gay.
Kenji | Jun 3, 2008 | Reply
I can only speculate why you made this list. I do agree with many of the points and ‘being a nice guy’ does suck, but I know too many guys who think that they have to be “a total douche” to get laid. Numbers 24-31 are great because I have been there and done that.
I think that you are right on the money when you say that you can be ‘too nice’ to a girl. Balancing your output of nice and your receiving of niceties in return is very important in life, I am glad you are making that distinction today.
The44yearoldvirgin | Jun 23, 2008 | Reply
That is pretty observant. I have seen most of the above. The thing is, do we exist to chase women or to do the right thing? I want a woman too, but I am not going to be a fool to get one. It is better to have been good, and never loved, than to have loved because you were never good. Stick to your principles and to hell with the women you can’t have. Realize that the woman that will accept you is usually the better girl. Turning down less attractive girls and chasing only the ‘hottest’ women is going to foul up your life. Why? Because deep down you know it’s wrong. It’s unfair to the girl who really likes you, and it’s disgusting to chase the girl that everybody else is chasing. Are we men, or animals? Sure, you may not get what you always wanted. Be a man about it. The ones who do get what they want, often realize that the women they got didn’t want them, they wanted a jerk. And they got one! Don’t be a fool. Do the right thing. Not because of what you will get, but because it’s right.
Ralph | Jul 5, 2008 | Reply
There’s no such thing as “the right thing” (they should trademark it really - LOL). Just be the man (strong, confident, independent, decisive, proactive to name a few defining traits of the man) and the problems will resolve on their own.