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You have probably heard that you shouldn’t talk about yourself too much when you are talking to women. That is true to a certain degree. Even I have implied that a fair bit. However, you shouldn’t take that to an extreme.

Often many men will use it as an excuse to not talk at all. “I thought I was suppose to let her do all the talking!” they say. This is really nothing more then shyness, anxiety, fear, and a no confidence.

The real point of letting a woman do the talking is to let her do it naturally because you have made her comfortable with talking to you. Sometimes, to make a woman comfortable talking about herself to you; you need to be able to talk about yourself first. This allows her to get to know you.

Talking about yourself shows confidence. When you do it your opening yourself up to be criticized. She might not like the shows you watch on TV, she might hate the music you do, and hate the movies that you do. Your afraid of that because you want to find common interests with her.

The truth is that she doesn’t care that much that you don’t have lots in common. She cares more about you being comfortable with who you are and having a passion for the life that you live. When she sees that you love those things she will learn to respect that. Having lots in common will just be a bonus.

Many women will test you to see how comfortable you are with yourself, to see if you are trying impress her, or if you will even change for her. Most men look at this as a bad thing, but the truth is that you can use it to get her talking about herself.

Her: What kind of music do you like?
You: I listen to allot of metal. Cradle of Filth is one of my favorite bands.
Her: My brother listens to that stuff. I can’t believe that you listen to music like that. That’s not even singing. That guy is just screaming!
You: Well that’s nice… What kind of “singing” do you listen too.
Her: I listen to Mariah carey!
You: I can’t believe that you listen to music like that. That’s not even singing. That girl is just screaming!
Her: Hey! Stop Making Fun Of Me!

You should be getting the point now. The next time you talk to a woman give some of the things I have talked about here a try.