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Were often taught as boys growing up that were suppose to be nice to women. Are parents teach it to us, TV teaches it to us, movies teach it to us, and even women tell us that they want a nice guy. They are of course all right.

Yes it’s true they are right. Logically women want men who are nice to them, treat them like a princess, and pamper them. It makes sense in a persons head to want it this way.

Why would a woman want a guy who hits her?

Why would a woman want a guy who verbally abuses her?

Why would a woman want a guy who treats her like trash?

If a woman likes these things then what kind of woman is she?

But that is the extreme end of things. This also applies to being too nice. You can take niceness to an extreme.

- You can buy women stuff without ever getting anything in return.
- You can do nice things for her without her ever doing anything nice for you.

That is where the problem lies. When a nice guy does something nice he sometimes expects her to do something in return. Maybe he expects sex or maybe he wants her to be his new girlfriend. In many ways he is trying to manipulate her. He just keeps on doing nice things without ever getting anything back.

So where does all this end?

It ends with you being nice on your own terms. You have to decide how nice you are willing to be to a woman and what you will accept back from her.

Some women will let you cook her dinner every week. The following night she may be out with some other guy doing things with him that she won’t do with you. Through your eyes that guy may be a jerk. Is that something your willing to put up with?

On the other hand…

Some women will let you cook her dinner this week and she may cook you breakfast in bed the following mourning. Is that something you would like?

As you can see you can be nice on your own terms. It’s up to you to evaluate how she uses you back and whether you will keep using her as nice as you always have been. You don’t have to let a woman use you just because the world has always told you that you need to be nice. And remember there is a difference between being nice and being used. You will have to learn that lesson for yourself