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One of the things I used to have a problem with when I was talking to women is that I couldn’t bring forth my fun side. I think that this is a problem for allot of men. I’m sure that you can relate to it. This is why allot of men actually struggle to get dates and get rejected. They don’t show her the fun side that he has. He only brings that side out for friends or family.

The conversations that many men have with women are much too serious in order to create any attraction. When you are serious all the time it just doesn’t send out the right vibes.

- It makes you look like a stiff.
- It makes you look like you can’t kick back and relax.
- It makes you look like you can’t take a joke.
- It makes a woman wonder if she could ever have any fun with you.
- She may even wonder if you are looking for her to make you happy.
- It makes you appear like there is nothing good going on in your life right now.
- It makes her feel uncomfortable around you.
- It makes her more serious when she is around you.

Of course it is easy to say “Lighten up and have some fun.”, but it’s another thing to actually go out and do it.

Here are a few tips that you can use to bring out your more interesting side.

Tip #1 Ask Interesting Questions

People love to talk about themselves. The best way of taking the anxiety off yourself is to get her to do allot more of the talking. The key is to look actually interested and fascinated about the things she is sharing with you. While she speaks look at her and use interesting facial expressions to show her how interested you are.

Tip #2 Be Enthusiastic

Some people always seem to be happy and excited about something. In most cases these people are just excited about life and meeting new people. When you meet a new woman you have to show her that you are excited to meet someone such as herself. You want to come across as warm with a high energy about yourself. Your energy and zest for life will bring her energy level up.

Tip #3 Always Focus On Positives

You want her to feel your positive presence when she meets you. If you complain or tell her all the sad stories you seen on the news you can’t do that. Focus only on conversation that will bring her up and make her feel good. The best topics are always the ones that will interest her the most.

Tip #4 Risk Being Misunderstood

You have to take some conversational risks. Sometimes you need to tease her, flirt with her, joke around, or make an interesting comment. The truth is that she may not understand everything you say. I can tell you it will happen. Get used to these. A quick recovery and the conversation will be back on track.