Why The Women You Pursue Must Be Interested In You Sexually
By Tyler on Apr 30, 2008 in Dating & Seduction Tips
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Today were going to take another look at the friendship zone problem.
One of the things most men don’t understand is that a woman has to be sexually interested in you. This is why you often get labeled as a friend.
When you do things that are safe, that show that you are provider, that you can look after her, and can be a shoulder to cry on you are not a lover. You are just good for her right now because you provide her with some stability. However, stability is often a weakness.
The truth is that women like it when things feel a little bit uncomfortable. When another man comes into her life who can make things a little uncomfortable she will move towards him and away from you.
Why?
Because he is exciting. He makes her feel a wide range of emotions. Most importantly he builds sexual tension. He makes her horny.
What this boils down to in the end is this.
Would you want a woman who….
- Cries on your shoulder
- Has you buy her gifts
- Has you take her to expensive restaurants
- Relies on you to get by in life
- Has you do her favors
Or would you prefer a woman who…
- Wants to tear your clothes off
- Experiment with you sexually
- Initiates sex at the strangest of times
- Loves to have sex with you
- Wants to touch you and wants you to touch her
A woman who is interested in you sexually will put as much effort into dating you as you are willing to put into dating her. If you find yourself seeing a woman that isn’t putting much effort into things then you are best to just let her go. Most men just don’t seem to understand that concept when a woman says things like “Let’s just be friends.” Now you will know better.
kenji | Apr 30, 2008 | Reply
that isn’t a fair contrast you have there. Just because she IS NOT crying, high-maintenance, and needy does not mean she will automatically be a nymph.
The few girls I have dated really liked that I bought them stuff and was polite and a gentleman, since most of their other boyfriends where beer-drinking sex-a-hollics who couldn’t turn on a lightbulb let alone a woman.
I will have to disagree with this one on the grounds that it does not give sufficient logical evidence to back up this claim. Sorry.
Tyler | May 1, 2008 | Reply
Thanks for your comments Kenji
What I’m saying is that she still has to want to have sex with you. Buying her stuff alone won’t make her want to do that. Being nice to her won’t make her want to do that. For every jerk she meets there is usually a nice guy who is willing to do excessively nice things for her.
If she doesn’t want to have sex with you then she will often end up back with one of those jerk like guys who she finds exciting.
I’m not referring to the “beer-drinking sex-a-hollics who couldn’t turn on a lightbulb let alone a woman.” You shouldn’t be that type of guy.
She really wants something in between a nice guy and a jerk because that is the guy who treats her like a real person. He doesn’t let her use him or put up with her crap. But he still has a soft side to him. This allows her to respect him.
Of course some women will eventually want to get married and have kids. So she will get sick of the jerks and want a guy who can provide and be nice. That comes with other issues that I won’t get into here.
You can be nice to her. There is nothing wrong with being a gentleman. Open doors for her, good manners, and stuff like that. You just have to make sure that she is adding value to your life too. Make sure you read the part at the end
“A woman who is interested in you sexually will put as much effort into dating you as you are willing to put into dating her.”
That last bit is important because you don’t want to be the one doing all the work in the relationship. There needs to be balance.
I think you took some of the things in that article to the extreme end of things.