How To Demonstrate Value The Right Way
By Tyler on Apr 23, 2008 in Dating & Seduction Tips
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You may have heard of the concept of demonstrating higher value to attract women. The concept is a good one. A woman has to value you and see that you have value in order to perk her interest in you. This is how she can choose one guy over another. A guy who has value is attractive a guy who doesn’t isn’t attractive.
Some guys have come up with clever ways of demonstrating that they have value. They use different routines that show a woman that they have value or sometimes that the woman is below him on the social scale. The theory being people are attracted to people who are above them.
The problem is that I hate routines. I don’t want to preform for a woman like I’m a stage act. I doubt that many men care to either. Because…
- It is phony
- You are lying about who you are. (What’s the point if you can’t be yourself?)
- You have to remember your performance. The lines, the tricks, and gimmicks.
- You will run out of tricks eventually.
- If you want a relationship she will find out that it was an act eventually.
- The woman can’t trust you to be yourself or to be honest with her once she finds out it is an act.
- There are probably a bunch of other reasons that I can’t think of right now.
So how can you demonstrate value you naturally. Here are a few tips that will help you out.
Tip #1: Have a Life
Yeah I know it sounds simple. When you have a life you have more to talk about, more stories to share, more experiences to share, you can bring her into a life that is exciting, and many other things.
If all you got to talk about is TV then your probably going to be more boring then anything else.
Tip #2: Be An Authority On Something
What are you an expert at? How can you use your expertise to attract a woman? What can you teach a woman?
This is very powerful and very underrated. If you know how to salsa dance you could teach her how to do it. This puts you in a position to be above her in some way.
Tip #3: Being Social
When you know lots of people and can talk to lots of people it gives you value. Other people like you so why shouldn’t she? It makes her curious about you.
Why does everyone want to meet him? Why is everyone talking to him? He must be someone important. Hmmm… Maybe I should give him a chance…Maybe I should introduce myself…
Okay so I’m going to stop at that. There other things you can do such as having your own opinion and even good body language. Those three should give you a good start.
Kenji | Apr 26, 2008 | Reply
Now this is the stuff that I like to hear from you Tyler. The advice that will lead men (such as myself) to being BETTER men.
Not that beer chugging jerk who is only sweet when he wants something. I mean that real honest guy, not this perfect image of ‘prince charming’ that men feel they have to live up to.
I love to hear about how to make yourself into something better and how you already have what women want, you just haven’t learned to express it.
I don’t really care to hear “how to pick up random hot chicks” because her exterior appearance is not, and should not, be on the top of my list. If I like her for who she is or what she does for me the problem may be getting her out of that annoying “I am just your friend” stage or in other cases, letting her know you are more than just “that guy” she vaguely knows past an acquaintance.
Keep up the good work Tyler and sorry for the harsh critique but I just know some stupid d*ck who has 0 dating experience will find this site and think he has to become some player in order to attract women by saying how to ‘change’ into the ideal man and not ‘become’ the man you always where.
I do find you to be a very intelligent individual and the world most certainly would be better off with more people like you in it, but seeing as that is going against the idea of “be yourself” a change of style to emphasize ‘how to bring out the best of who you are’ may be better than ‘how to do it like I do it’.