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Ahhh Yes. The fear of the beautiful woman. She has such great powers over you.

For many men they simply can’t approach a woman they are attracted to. Some would rather be thrown out of a moving vehicle then have to deal with their fears of meeting that special woman. Heck, some men would rather join the military and learn how to dodge bullets then have to approach a beautiful woman. There is defiantly something wrong here…

There are allot of deep issues of where that fear comes from. It does help to understand where that fear comes from. But you still need a bit of a plan of action that will help you overcome that fear. That’s what were going to look at today.

Step 1: Find A Place Of Comfort

The first thing you should do is find out where you would be most comfortable meeting women. Not every guy is going to be comfortable meeting women in bars and clubs. You especially don’t need to go to those places when your first learning to overcome your fears.

You might be comfortable in a coffee shop or at the mall. You might prefer to meet women that are alone rather then in a group. Find out where that place is. Your never going to be 100% comfortable so your going to have to get used of the feeling of being uncomfortable.

Step 2: Starting A Conversation: Give Yourself An Excuse

The next thing you need to do is figure out how you can start a conversation with that woman in your place of comfort. Find something that you can say to her that gives you a reason to be talking to her.

So if you were in a mall you could get her advice on fashion. In the bookstore you could get her advice on a good book.

What you are doing here is giving yourself permission to talk to her for reasons outside of dating. The romantic thoughts that you are having of her is what makes you nervous. You want to eliminate romantic and sexual thoughts for the time being. This helps you get rid of some of that anxiety.

The other thing this does is that it allows you to see her in a different way. You might see a woman who is beautiful and stuck up. When you ask for her help or opinion on something you will get to see how eager she is to help you. You get to see a much more genuine side of her. This allows you to see that your original assumptions of her may have been wrong.

Step 3: Demonstrate Interest

If you do like what you have seen from her so far then you will need to demonstrate interest in her. This means your going to have to flirt with her. Yeah I know this can be scary, but so can spending your life alone.

Sometimes you just need to send out some confusing messages to her and other times you can just be really direct. The mixed message can make her wonder “Does he like me?” or Doesn’t he like me?” Being direct works great too but you have to be strong and confident to pull it off.

“I like the way you twirl your hair. It’s kind of sexy. But I don’t want you to think that I’m hitting on you so take that compliment back.”

“I think I might like you. Would you like to grab a cup coffee?”

Step 4: Get Her Number

You think you might like her and she thinks that she might like you. The only way to see where things will go is by getting her number. All you got to do now is ask.

“I’ve enjoyed talking to you. Let me have your phone number so we can talk again in he future.”

Conclusion

Now you got yourself a plan, but it is still up to you to go use it. It will take some trial and error on you part. At the end of the day you will have yourself meeting new women. That’s something many man can’t do.