Comments on: The Down Side Of Getting What You Want http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/ How to attract women with charm. No tricks, gimmicks, or fakes. Mon, 06 Sep 2010 01:48:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: Tyler http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-69 Tyler Wed, 23 Apr 2008 13:08:59 +0000 http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-69 Hi Blacki Thanks for your comments. I'm probably going to write a little more on this in the future. I don't think allot of people mean to hurt other people with the things they say. Because they are frustrated with their own life it comes out that way. People just don't always think things through before they say it. I think one of the things that people have to do is realize that we all have bad things happen to us. It's about how we respond to those bad things. Even though someone might appear to be more lucky then you it doesn't mean they haven't ever been unlucky. They simply handled the adversity and obstacles that life threw at them better then the average person. They do this with the right mindset and attitude towards life. Hi Blacki

Thanks for your comments.

I’m probably going to write a little more on this in the future.

I don’t think allot of people mean to hurt other people with the things they say. Because they are frustrated with their own life it comes out that way. People just don’t always think things through before they say it.

I think one of the things that people have to do is realize that we all have bad things happen to us. It’s about how we respond to those bad things.

Even though someone might appear to be more lucky then you it doesn’t mean they haven’t ever been unlucky. They simply handled the adversity and obstacles that life threw at them better then the average person. They do this with the right mindset and attitude towards life.

]]> By: blacki http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-67 blacki Wed, 23 Apr 2008 09:08:19 +0000 http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-67 Hi Tyler, I think you must be a good person to think like this. life has just got a lot of contrdictions and people are just lost all the times. The very act of trying to be good leads us to be bad although I wonder if the opposite is true.we are all unlucky (lucky) that our lives do not depend on our actions alone just as our happiness. We can't directly make our selves happy or successful. The worse of the contradictions is that at some times peoples' happiness seems to depend on other peoples' "unhappiness". Thats surely when people tend to maximise their happiness by hurting others and making them less happy. I wonder how we can get out of this. Thanks for your message. It confirmed a lot of what I have been living and thinking Blacki Hi Tyler,
I think you must be a good person to think like this. life has just got a lot of contrdictions and people are just lost all the times.
The very act of trying to be good leads us to be bad although I wonder if the opposite is true.we are all unlucky (lucky) that our lives do not depend on our actions alone just as our happiness. We can’t directly make our selves happy or successful.

The worse of the contradictions is that at some times peoples’ happiness seems to depend on other peoples’ “unhappiness”. Thats surely when people tend to maximise their happiness by hurting others and making them less happy. I wonder how we can get out of this.

Thanks for your message. It confirmed a lot of what I have been living and thinking

Blacki

]]> By: kenji http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-61 kenji Sun, 20 Apr 2008 04:08:43 +0000 http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-61 I do believe that this kind of communication is best suited for e-mail and not to clutter a single comment section of your posts :p Shoot me a line over e-mail if you'd like. I think you are right that women do enjoy being controlled to an extent, I have lost a few girlfriends by trying to be equal with them when they wanted me to lead... If she wants to follow I guess you must do as she wishes to be a gentleman. I do believe that this kind of communication is best suited for e-mail and not to clutter a single comment section of your posts :p

Shoot me a line over e-mail if you’d like.

I think you are right that women do enjoy being controlled to an extent, I have lost a few girlfriends by trying to be equal with them when they wanted me to lead… If she wants to follow I guess you must do as she wishes to be a gentleman.

]]> By: Tyler http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-60 Tyler Sat, 19 Apr 2008 22:53:18 +0000 http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-60 Kenji I don't mean put her in her place as in making her your love slave. What I mean is not letting a woman dominant you. Women will test you to see how much control they have over you. If a woman can control to much of your behavior then she has a tendency to lose attraction. This means you could end up being her slave because she controls what you do and who you are. She will also lose allot of respect for you. The "About me" page is coming eventually. Kenji

I don’t mean put her in her place as in making her your love slave. What I mean is not letting a woman dominant you. Women will test you to see how much control they have over you. If a woman can control to much of your behavior then she has a tendency to lose attraction. This means you could end up being her slave because she controls what you do and who you are. She will also lose allot of respect for you.

The “About me” page is coming eventually.

]]> By: Kenji http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-58 Kenji Sat, 19 Apr 2008 13:18:50 +0000 http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-58 Well don't loose hope. I honestly do find your advice sound. I just squirm a little when I hear "put a woman in her place" I have too many sexist friends... I'd personally appreciate to see an "About me" page that answers what you mean by things like that. Well don’t loose hope. I honestly do find your advice sound. I just squirm a little when I hear “put a woman in her place” I have too many sexist friends… I’d personally appreciate to see an “About me” page that answers what you mean by things like that.

]]> By: Tyler http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-57 Tyler Sat, 19 Apr 2008 12:49:25 +0000 http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-57 Hi Kenji Thanks for your comments. There isn't many comments yet becuase very few people have left any. Most of the comments I have been getting have been spam. Those comments just get deleted as they don't add any value to my blog. Hi Kenji

Thanks for your comments.

There isn’t many comments yet becuase very few people have left any. Most of the comments I have been getting have been spam. Those comments just get deleted as they don’t add any value to my blog.

]]> By: Kenji http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-55 Kenji Sat, 19 Apr 2008 10:17:46 +0000 http://www.charmingmanblog.com/2008/04/18/the-down-side-of-getting-what-you-want/#comment-55 This is probably the hardest thing one can do, be happy that someone has what you do not. As always, it is hard to accept how these things are said but the truth of what is said is unavoidable. Yes, it is hard to tell the guy your girlfriend looks up to. "Your a really great person and I wanted you to know that" and it is all to easy to try and find weaknesses to exploit in him, but he does not deserve that and as the underlying point of this article states. "Be happy with yourself first and she'll be happy with you". Great post as I have come to see is always the case, I just wonder why I can't find anyone else's comments. This is probably the hardest thing one can do, be happy that someone has what you do not.

As always, it is hard to accept how these things are said but the truth of what is said is unavoidable.

Yes, it is hard to tell the guy your girlfriend looks up to. “Your a really great person and I wanted you to know that” and it is all to easy to try and find weaknesses to exploit in him, but he does not deserve that and as the underlying point of this article states. “Be happy with yourself first and she’ll be happy with you”.

Great post as I have come to see is always the case, I just wonder why I can’t find anyone else’s comments.

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