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One of the difficulties many men have when meeting women is finding a balance of showing a woman that you are interested in her needs and going after what you want for yourself.

If you don’t go after what you want she will steer things down the path of what she wants. In most cases a woman will steer things down the path of friendship. This is either because the man didn’t initiate when he should of or because the woman didn’t want to initiate for herself. What you are left with is friendship and nothing more.

There is another side of all of this…

What happens if you show a woman that you are interested in her sexually as soon as you meet her? It rarely ever works.

Pickup lines don’t work.

Saying things like: “Hey baby! You sure looking fine today?” Doesn’t work either.

Those sorts of things show her that you are only interested in your own needs. It tells her this guy wants to have sex with me yet he doesn’t know me.

So what can a guy do? Here are two things you can do.

1.You go after what you want even if you are not her type. Most couples are never perfect. The woman will make it work out in her head that you are right for each other when she becomes attracted to you. For example, if you give her great sex she wont care that your a terrible dancer.

Over time she may also realize that you bring other things to her life that she didn’t really expect a man to do. She just has this idea of what she wants, but those ideas in her head don’t always work out so well when it comes to actually feeling attraction towards a man. In the end it’s not just the qualities you bring to her life it’s the feelings that you give her that she really wants. She does know how she wants to feel. She will always get that part right.

2.You build a relationship with her first. This is where you hear many woman saying I would like to be friends first then go from there. What she is saying is “Give me a chance to get to know you and I’ll give you a chance to get to know me. If we like what we see we can go from there.”

You can actually give her that type of experience without being labeled as a friend. You have to initiate and escalate things at the right time.

You: So what sort of things do you like to do for fun?
Her: I love to play beach volleyball.
You: (You look down at her legs.) I knew those long legs were good for more then just walking.
Her: (Smiling) Oh there good for allot of things.

On and on the conversation goes.

This is how you can have some friendly conversation then introduce some flirting as she shares who she is.

Try those to two things. I think you will like how they work.