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In life we always want to blame someone else other then ourselves.

We all like to tell ourselves that someone else did it to us. We like to believe that things out of our control caused the problem. This holds true for dating.

Why is it that it is always the mans fault and never the womans?

Why is it that your always the one to make the mistake that causes your dating life to go wrong?

To be honest with you it isn’t always your fault. Women do things or behave in ways that don’t always make it easy for you. They may test you, try to disqualify certain behavior, and even put very little effort into the time that you spend with her. To be blunt, women make it easy for you to blame them.

In fact that is a test. If you do blame her then your giving her control and the ability to lead things down a certain path.

When it comes to dating women are not good leaders. Often a woman will either lead things towards friendship or just a messy argument.

You have to take control by blaming yourself. This takes the control away from the woman. It allows you to lead things towards a specific outcome that you want. It allows you to be in control of what you get.

When you hold yourself responsible it helps you learn things.

Where did you go wrong?

How can you handle that differently the next time?

This allows you to address problems that come up. If you blame the woman you will never learn anything.

Learn to hold yourself responsible for your own happiness. In some cases this may mean ending a date early, or even stop dating a woman because you are not enjoying her company.

Putting that woman in her place is probably the best way to blame her when she is being miserable to be around.

So, start blaming yourself today. Start learning from the things you have done wrong. And take back the control of your life.