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Yes that is a crazy title. Let me explain…

For years some of the most common dating advice is to only approach women that are already interested in you. This usually means the woman gives you signs through body language and eye contact that she is interested.

Things like…

- extended eye contact
- smiling at you
- twirling her hair
- showing signs of nervousness

There are lots of other things.

Thats not bad advice. But it doesn’t mean that she will actually like you once she actually meets you.

It also brings up another problem for most men. What are you suppose to say to her? Allot of guys think that once they see a woman give out those signs they have to reinforce her original opinion of them.

How do I get her to believe that I’m a nice guy?

How do I get her to believe I’m not like the other guys?

How do I get her to believe that I have lots to offer?

While that is going through your head she is already gone. Yup! You missed your opportunity. You didn’t approach her, and now she will meet some other guy.

Where is the problem with all of this?

Your not selfish enough.

You are too focused on what you can offer her and how she feels about you. You are more concerned about her feelings then your own.

What happens to you if you don’t meet her?

What happens to you if you don’t ever get a girlfriend?

What happens to you if you don’t have any sex?

What would happen if you approached her and found out that you don’t even like her?

She won’t care. She is only concerned about how she feels about you and your concerned about it too.

You have to go after what it is that you want. If you are attracted to her you go after her. You present her with the opportunity to get to know you and to be part of something. She may never know that she wants to be part of your life until she meets you.

This boils down to you not being selfish enough by going after your wants and desires. It also shows that you lack confidence.

- Assume that you are good enough.
- Assume that she will like you.
- Assume that she will be attracted to you.

You will be presenting her with the opportunity to be attracted to a guy who isn’t even her type.

Simply put: by going after what you want you will make her feel more attracted to you because you are presenting her with an unexpected opportunity.