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Now that we have gotten some of the inner stuff and confidence stuff out of the way we need to start working on other skills. Yes approaching women is a skill. It doesn’t take as much skill as many would have you believe, but you will need a certain amount of it.

The first thing you should do is take a day or two and just observe women. Go to coffee shops, grocery stores, clubs, bookstores, and other places that there are women. You want to particularly go to venues where there are women that you would actually like to meet. If your not a party guy then going to the clubs might not do you much good.

As I said you want to observe women. I don’t mean just check them out either. You want to look for little details about them. What do you hear when she walks? What is she doing? What jewelry is she wearing? How much makeup does she have on? What color are her eyes?

The purpose of that exercise is for you to become more genuinely interested in who she is. I’m trying to get you to think beyond just good looks. Most guys are too intimidated by a woman’s beauty. This either turns them into dogs that just want to get laid or complete wimps. Most women are not nearly as amazing as you think they are. That is just reality. She is a real person with flaws. You will find them when you go looking for them.

Once that is out of the way you can start to approach women. Yes this can be scary… I’m going to break you in easy.

All you have to do to start things out is smile at her and say hi. Yes thats it.

If your at the bookstore stand beside her, make eye contact, smile, and then say hi. You can do all this while you check out books or magazines. You don’t even have to say anything after that. You could follow it up with a “How are you?” If you are brave enough. You can do this anywhere. I recommend you approach women that are alone simply because it will make you feel more comfortable. Approach as many women as you possibly can to get used of the idea of being friendly.

If you can’t convince yourself to approach women you are attracted to then start approaching other strangers. This can help you get comfortable initiating conversations with people that you don’t know.

You should also give up your need to say the perfect thing. Its not so much what you say, or what you talk about, as it is how you can make her feel in your presence. By showing her that you are friendly, warm, and confident she cant help but be a little interested in you.