A big problem for many men is their fear of women. This fear is usually about how the woman will respond to the things he says or does. Allot of this comes down to you seeking her approval and confidence. See yesterdays lesson for information on that.

This is something that has to be dealt with before you can have any success with women. If you fear them you wont approach them or talk to them. Even if you can do those two things, you will probably be too nervous and uptight to show your true personality. She wont be able to see your interesting personality when you let your fears dominant you.

Lets take a look at what fear really is.

When you think about a woman you are attracted to you will start to imagine things that aren’t true. These are almost always worse case scenarios that you imagine. Things like a woman telling you off, throwing her drink at you, and embarrassing you in some way. Although these things haven’t happened yet, you are visualizing them in your mind. Because, you see these things happening in your mind its as if they really are happening. This makes it very difficult for you to ever feel comfortable around women.

On the other hand, if you are confident you may start to imagine things that haven’t happened yet too. The difference here, is that you are imagining the ideal scenarios. You see her talking to you, smiling with you, laughing with you, and flirting with you.

What you will find is that in most cases nothing is ever as bad as you think it will be and nothing is ever as good as you think it will be. Things will more likely fall somewhere in between. This is a huge breakthrough that you need to realize in order to overcome your fears of women.

When you think a woman will tell you off its not likely to happen. She is probably more likely to say nothing or turn her back towards you. But the odds of her snapping like a crazy woman and screaming at you isn’t very likely.

Now here is what I want you to do. I want you to pick something that you fear doing and do it anyways. This doesn’t have to start with women. It could be talking to a stranger at the bus stop. It could be helping a little old lady across the street. Those can be harder things to do then what most people realize.

You may also go to the extreme. Try bungee jumping or sky diving. Pick something that you are afraid to do and do it anyways.

What you will learn is that most things are rarely ever as bad as you think they are. Some things may even become enjoyable.

Once you have gotten to that point I want you to try something a little different. I want you to ask a stranger to do a small favor for you.

- Have someone move their chair because they are crowding you or because you need to get through.
- Ask someone if you can sit with them.
- Ask someone to push over on the bus so you can sit with them.
- Ask someone to move out of your way so you can get through.
- Ask someone to open the door for you.

Of course you should ask people politely.

The point is to get a stranger to do a small favor for you. It really doesn’t matter what it is.

Take special note of how these people respond. You will find that in most cases people won’t give you that bad response that you think they will.

If you are shy and lack confidence those two experiences will be brutal. The end result will be unbelievable. I highly recommend that you give it a try.